I just don't know

[thayos]

I tried to do the right thing today by being there for someone i consider a friend.  I guess I  consider her more of a friend than she considers me.  My friends dad passed away this past Saturday and the viewing was today, so I took off work an hour early and went.  Her mother would not speak to me.  Leslie saw me and left the room, but her brother

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[forgottenalarms]

Anyone who pushes you aside like that isn't a true friend. You tried to be there for her and that was good of you to do. Sorry that she did that man. If you need to talk hit me up.

[autumnsfire]

How close have you two been?

When my dad died, a lot of friends wanted to come and help out. I only let my closest friend and her husband come over; simply because I didn't know how to react - and frankly, on thinking back, I probably wouldn't do it again - I would have told them to please just not be there either for now. I pushed a LOT of people away during the weeks after. I just couldn't handle all of it at once.

It comes down to what you can handle at the time. Each person deals with it differently and it takes some time to get through it all.

That being said, I will say try and contact her in a few weeks to see how she's doing. If she pushes you away, then yes, I do agree with JDR; let the friendship go.

But don't judge her on her reaction during a funeral/viewing.

[firesong_jb]

Going to agree with Heather. People deal with mourning in different ways. we don't know the whole history here, but unless there is a reason for her to snub you (ie there is stuff in your past she hasn't told her husband about) it may have simply been because she was out of sorts and overwhelmed. (if she does have a reason to snub you, then that's just crappy and she needs to be truthful with y'all).

Give her a few weeks then try to get in touch with her. DO NOT bring this up though. That will more than likely just piss her off or make her feel you are being selfish thinking she should have run over to you on the horribly difficult day.

Let me know if you want to talk more. love.