Comments | thatgirly: A year and a day.

thatgirly

A year and a day.

Dec 30, 2005 11:27

In all of my recent excitement/worry about the party, I forgot to mention a little conversation I had with my Mama the other day. She is, apparantly considering having a "handfasting" ceremony with David, her partner of 13 or so years, and wanted the permission of all her daughters ( Read more... )

family, relationships, mama

Comments 6

wickedsin December 30 2005, 11:57:26 UTC

well stated

thatgirly December 30 2005, 12:10:19 UTC

Thank you very much.

skyschemer December 30 2005, 12:37:22 UTC

I don't care much for handfasting or the same idea under other names. The way I look at is that you are either committing or you aren't, and there's no such thing as a half-commitment with special escape clauses. If you are really committing, really trying to make it work, there is no "easy out" if it fails.

thatgirly December 30 2005, 13:12:41 UTC

I think that during the time it was in use it was actually a really good idea, what with premarital sex and cohabitation being strictly prohibited, and divorce not being an option, but in our society now it's no longer relevant.

pir December 30 2005, 16:42:05 UTC

There are two stages to handfasting, the first is commitment for a year and a day and then if renewed for a lifetime and a day (the wording varies somewhat).

I think that even with cohabitation not being as much of an issue these days (and believe me, it is still an issue to some people) a formal commitment changes things within a relationship whatever form that commitment takes. Testing it rather than getting divorced doesn't seem like a particularly bad idea to me.

desert_boy December 30 2005, 18:08:07 UTC

Handfasting as in the wiccan ritual?

One of the big reasons why I left the neo-pagan scene was the silliness of the rituals.