Monday

[tesslouise]

This morning Rowan and I went to Ray's Splash Planet. It wasn't worth full price--the new moms' group had it on the calendar as a parent-tot day, but it wasn't--but I had already promised Rowan that we were going swimming, so we stayed. Unfortunately, it wasn't quite as warm as it could have been, and by the time Rowan stopped being overwhelmed

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[cathrynapple]

Many of my playgroup friends with 2009 babies are TTC at the moment. I am a bit in awe of them, as I am in no way ready for a second child. I am overwhelmed with the one I have. Maybe this sounds bad, but many of them give me the impression that they think having only one child is wrong in some way, and that having too large of an age gap is wrong.

[tesslouise]

I think in the case of the women in our playgroup, they are concerned because they are over 30 (one woman is 38) and they worry they will run out of time to have children if they don't space them closely.

I'm thinking a 3+ year age gap sounds good. I'd love Rowan to be weaned and potty-trained before we have another.

[sagefemme11]

Take your sweet time having bambolinos. I had three in five years and was so overwhelmed, sometimes I melted into tears for nothing more than not being able to make a soup for dinner.

Much better to have your sanity than your brood completed super-fast. ;-)

[tesslouise]

Thank you! My mom had all three of us in four years, and that is what I am hoping and planning to avoid. I'm thinking a 3+ year age gap sounds good. I'd love Rowan to be weaned and potty-trained before we have another.

[kirksey]

I have lots of friends pregnant with another/already had another too. Their other child is usually younger than mine even.

I don't think we are having another so I always have this brief moment of betrayal. Like I lost a possible Only Child Comrade.

[darlingmiette]

Same here!

[truthbetold]

Including these three, I have ten friends and acquaintances who are pregnant right now, seven with their second child.

wow. i can definitely see why you might be feeling left out! dont worry, i still only have one. ;)

[tesslouise]

Thank you! ;)

[stinklefritz]

I can't even imagine, the thought of having another inhabitant in my uterus makes my ovaries ache, and not in that pleasant baby-wanting way.