my mom is so cruel

[teenie_wishes]

She leaves a voice mail telling me to leave her house and life. And there is a part of me that wants to tell her off but i wont.

Comments

Ouch

[auric_merciless]

Leave her a voice mail asking her to call you when she sobers up.

*SNAP*

Re: Ouch

[teenie_wishes]

lol it would be easier if she was drunk :)

[miss_tina]

families suck. :(

*hugs*

[teenie_wishes]

*nods*

I have had two coffee's today and I am WIRED :D

[tannie]

Is your mom drinking a lot and then calling you?
You might want to move out then...

I wish she would be drunk! lol

[teenie_wishes]

But my mom doesn't drink (ex mormon) :P

[bamboo82]

I'm not sure what causes one to say that to their daughter... but she sounds like she needs to be told off.

*hugs*

I'm sorry she's being retarded.

[teenie_wishes]

She is a nut job.. :< lots of problems that she doesn't want to address.

I am gonna just continue to be the better person and ignore her.... bah. thanks for the hug :)

[stargurlie7399]

i'm sorry :( i completely understand. it's really upsetting and unfortunate for you that you have such an un-stable mother. and that she takes it out on you. my mom used to do the same thing. it has been a while since i've lived with her, but i still harbor the belief most of the time that she is crazy. the scariest part is when you start to notice that behaviors that she does (and you hate) are also behaviors that you have.

try try try as much as you can to not take it personally. i would not suggest telling her off, which you obviously know better :) it just makes things worse. and feeds into the attention that she wants. the best thing you can do for her is to act like it doesn't bother you. which i know is impossible!!!! ((((((hugs)))))

[teenie_wishes]

Thanks for your support babe :) Yes, it is so hard to just act like it doesn't bother me. Cause it most definitely does.

And it is true that sometimes I see her in me :< I have to fight against acting like her at times -- but it seems impossible to not at times too.... guh does that make sense? like I try not to but sometimes I mess up. Like Don says - at least I am aware. :P

[stargurlie7399]

EXACTLY. At least you realize. It is impossible to not be like your parents. Children learn by example. It’s kind of frightening how much we learn from them that we don’t even realize. I would just suggest being away from her as much as possible. But I know it’s probably a love hate relationship. Sometimes you really really want your mom, and other times, you wish you had someone else’s mom. And you hate feeling like you do need her some of the time.

But yeah. Distance definitely helps. Spend lots of time with don this weekend. That’s all I can say that has really helped for me. And really, long term, accepting who she is. And that while she is your mom, she is human. But you should never have to take the burden for her craziness. That is not your job. You have to worry about you. no matter how much that hurts. Not sure if any of this makes sense. I don’t know the whole story, but judging from what I know about your past, I have a feeling that we are dealing with similar things with our moms. ♥