I love reading your thoughts on motherhood! I too, did not ever envision myself as a SAHM, and my feelings did not change once I was lucky enough to become a mother. In fact, I felt almost a guilty sense of relief when I went back to work, because I craved adult conversation and using the parts of my brain that endless rounds of bottle washing and baby laundry just can't stimulate.
I'm so glad to hear you found a great daycare that you are comfortable with! That will make it a lot easier. The first two weeks back at work were a bit rougher than I thought- I missed my little man, but you will see- it gets more comfortable as time passes :)
I hope i wasn't a tut tutter... but it held true for me. I went back to work at 8 weeks PP, and it wasn't so bad. It was nice to talk to adults and feel my 'value' in society besides being Ruby's mother. Now, as her first birthday approaches, it's the opposite... I almost detest work. I love WHAT i do, just not HOW i do it. So... I'm leaving my group practice and going to have a small home practice. Of course this will mean home renovations first, but the knowledge that in 6 months i can be with my baby (and a nanny to watch her) all day, rocks my socks. The most important thing, is that we get the choice. No one should be looked down upon because one works better for another. I know for me, I can't imagine feeling the other way, but it doesn't mean I think you are crazy (or a bad mother) for feeling that way, KWIM? PS, again, I'm so happy BF is working well for you and Z. It makes me teary just thinking about it. What an amazing gift for you both.
My thoughts and guesses about what I'll want emotionally when I become a mom has changed numerous times over the years. Financial issues kind of make this non-negotiable so it's a bit of a moot point with me. But being among the last of my friends, both on LJ and in "real life," I've seen a lot of moms deal with a lot of work situations. And boy does it vary. I've seen the moms who looked forward to going back to work and then hit a really bad depression that made them change jobs -- more an issue of changing how they do what they do. I've also seen moms who stayed home for several months, sometimes planned, sometimes not, and nearly go crazy.
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I love reading your thoughts on motherhood! I too, did not ever envision myself as a SAHM, and my feelings did not change once I was lucky enough to become a mother. In fact, I felt almost a guilty sense of relief when I went back to work, because I craved adult conversation and using the parts of my brain that endless rounds of bottle washing and baby laundry just can't stimulate.
I'm so glad to hear you found a great daycare that you are comfortable with! That will make it a lot easier. The first two weeks back at work were a bit rougher than I thought- I missed my little man, but you will see- it gets more comfortable as time passes :)
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The most important thing, is that we get the choice. No one should be looked down upon because one works better for another. I know for me, I can't imagine feeling the other way, but it doesn't mean I think you are crazy (or a bad mother) for feeling that way, KWIM?
PS, again, I'm so happy BF is working well for you and Z. It makes me teary just thinking about it. What an amazing gift for you both.
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