I don't think it's depression perse, just adjusting to a new life and missing peole. It's been over a year since I moved from Wa to Oregon and I still want to go back at least once a week. It sounds like you are at work as much as Eric or more so at least you don't have to sit in an empty house and miss him (I only work half as much as Matt at the most, so I usually sit and play an online game when he's not home). Also talk to Eric about how you feel, because that's what marriage is about, sharing things. Also, you can always call me (425-241-7137) and if I'm not doing the sucky retail thing, we can chat or I'll call you right back!
So, I hope this doesn't sound silly to you, but I'm currently taking an elective at vet school about pet loss and greiving. We run a hotline (Pet Loss Hotline) as do many other vet schools for people who are experiencing more pain and depression than they expected... I totally understand what you're going through. In losing your grandma and Molly you're experiencing what we call compound grief where you end up associating the two and thinking about one or the other triggers memories of the opposite loss and essentially can dramatically increase the magnitude of your grief. Especially if you have few people to talk to about it or if people you do talk to aren't sensitive to the fact that you had a very deep bond with Molly. A lot of people don't understand that when you have a pet that you treat like your child, and you have a routine with that pet every day, losing them is very hard. Every little thing, every missed routine moment that you used to have with her will be hard for a while. And it may come in waves. Some days you'll feel
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