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apis_cerana in team_unemployed

n00b post

Jun 30, 2009 21:51

So I "lost" my job (it was a contract, though it was technically full-time) last December. I had it for 9 months, and loved it -- it was my first real design job, and I made some great friends there. I've been looking seriously for maybe 4 months while freelancing, which is not providing me with the stability I need. The competition in the design ( Read more... )

rant, introduction, failure, discussion

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amorvincitnos July 1 2009, 03:27:40 UTC

My group of friends is mostly composed of UNEMPLOYED folk (being that we're all in Windsor, Ontario) and I find we rarely ever see the few of us that ARE employed, which definitely puts a damper on things with them. :/

apis_cerana July 1 2009, 03:29:22 UTC

Is that because of lack of money, or more of an emotional detachment?

amorvincitnos July 1 2009, 03:42:07 UTC

I find it's part schedule and possibly part detachment. I think we've become accustomed to doing group things at our leisure, which often makes the timing impossible for the employed, and then sometimes in making our sporadic plans, calling them up just doesn't come to mind.

It's hard to think in terms of routine when you don't have one to live up to, and (to contradict that statement somewhat) when you get into a routine of seeing certain people all the time, I think others maybe slip your mind.

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apis_cerana July 1 2009, 04:28:29 UTC

<3 Thanks. And that is true -- what we need is luck, or some really great connections! At least it's a good excuse to go party, heh.

chordoflife July 1 2009, 17:47:06 UTC

Yeah.. same here.. even retail is keeping people on and not hiring.. ugh. I'm really worried at this point. I also agree that if I do get a job back in NC ( where I lived last year) then it's going to be by divine providence, because things are nearly impossible.

rin_x_x July 1 2009, 05:56:22 UTC

"I felt bad for being morose when I should have been celebrating with him."

You SHOULD have been unhappy (not that you should've lost your job -- but your response was natural), and he should have been more supportive of you. You shouldn't feel bad for that at all, nor should anyone make you feel that way!

apis_cerana July 1 2009, 06:07:39 UTC

Thank you. <3
The raise was big for him, since he had been feeling kind of underappreciated at work -- so I was genuinely happy for him too, though definitely not as happy as I could have been. Hah.
My bf thankfully doesn't make me feel badly unintentionally, but I've stopped talking to him about job prospects, etc. because he says some things that are grating to me without meaning to. Same with my parents.

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apis_cerana July 1 2009, 06:33:36 UTC

O HAI THAR :D

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, too. :\ I also am having a hard time with not going out as much 'cuz it's about $10 round trip to see my bf via bus since I live at home in a full house, and we almost always end up going out for food (which I feel bad for not chipping into). Bah.

And being depressed sucks major balls. I'd forgotten what it was like.

sugarlessgrl July 1 2009, 07:50:12 UTC

I kinda feel like that too.
My close friends are all employed or successfully finishing their degrees, while I have no degree and no job.
I feel that I have distanced myself from them, not only because I need my lonely moments sometimes... but also because at times I can't stand the usual "Hi, how are you? How's job hunting?" conversations. >.