i give up

[tankgirl88]

After the Max fiasco i decided to take a break from the relationship madness and fly solo for a while, that didn't last long. Against my better judgment I took the advice of my buddy Christine and called up a mutual friend of ours...we have been dateing ever since. real sweet guy

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[pressrecord]

Oy vey...Maybe you should just get more cats. Cats never let us down.

[tankgirl88]

for real....i guess thats what i get for going back to goth guys

[umbrarumcantus]

Fuck him. I mean not literally... the opposite of literally... where you tell him to go fuck himself because you won't be fucking him anymore. If he can't get his shit together that's his own problem, and rewarding his cry for attention by continuing to show him attention would be a poor idea.

[tankgirl88]

as angry as i was about what he did, giving up on him now just isn't my style...especially since most of the people he cares about already turned their backs on him for what he did....i just couldn't do that. Trust me, you arnt the only one that feels that way, even my friends that are close to Tox think he doesn't deserve to have me take care of him.

[umbrarumcantus]

See, that last phrase is the problem. You shouldn't be taking care of him. No one, in a relationship, should ever be "taking care of" their partner. I mean, sure, if they get the flu, bring them soup, but on an emotional level? That's called dependence. If someone cannot take care of themselves, they cannot be in a relationship. Pure, simple, fact. If you don't want to abandon him completely, that's fine, but if he doesn't have his shit together he can't be in a relationship. That's just the way it is. Trust me - I've dated people who didn't have their shit together, and I've dated people when I didn't have my shit together, and it doesn't work. Ever.

[tankgirl88]

ohnonono you misunderstood, i wasn't taking care of him strictly on an emotional level, when he got out of the hospital he was still detoxing(not related to his name, just ironic). He was shaking, sweating, having nightmares, i stayed with him a few days until he could function better. I've had more than my share of people using me as emotional crutches...Tox has never asked me for a thing.