a reply from dad

[tahitian_dove]

You also said "a couple of blocks". More than once. At least you are not

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[cadetsandkings]

I'm not sure about all of the stuff about loans...

His points about financial management are salient, which you know, in terms of spending/overspending.

The problem is... he totally point-blank refuses to see why his methods do NOT work for you. And... the fact that he's so open about wanting to keep your mum from travelling overseas, well. WTF.

I think it would be helpful if you talked to someone, made a strict budget that included a little bit of play, and went to see a counsellor. I'm here for you, and I'll go with you or take you to your appointments, but please? Make one? <3 I love you, I want you to feel and be and live BETTER!

[tahitian_dove]

I think what bothers me is this:

"I did ask Nini if she thought her relationship with you had improved in any
significant manner, and the answer was NO."

In my eyes it totally had..I want to think that he's wrong or that he's lying..but it hurts if it was true

[tahitian_dove]

and as for the loan stuff, he got the ball rolling but when it was pretty much set up and waiting for his signiture, the fact that I told him I couldnt handle a full 5 class course load made him withdrawl..

I'd rather take four and pass them all than take 5 and do a half assed job- its just too much for me..

[nling]

I agree with cadetsandkings. Also my friend who's the financial consultant can help you out as I've mentioned before. Just let me know when you're free or want to do this. Actually, you know what? I like this so-called 2 year plan your dad has mentioned. It's time for you to show him what you can do, Lia on your own terms. I hate how he tries to manipulate that it's all your fault. Relationships take 2. Always has, always will be.

As for being comfortable with his relationship with Ben... maybe he should try talking to his son one day. How delusional can you be?

There's no need to reply. Your actions and your positive attitude, your strength in the next coming while will show him more than text on email.

[adw]

I agree with what's been said already...not much more to say I guess. Though, I just want to add...reading this...it's really weird. I mean, this correspondence you're having with your dad...it's bizarre and a bit unsettling in a way. When's the last time you said "I love you" or something similar to each other?

[tahitian_dove]

Never.

[tahitian_dove]

I'm honestly not sure I do. He's never been a father to me. How can I love a stranger?