I don't understand people

[tacit]

So, as many of you readers of this blog already know, one of the many things I do is write erotica. The most popular thing I've ever written by far is a BDSM/non-con story, the Training of Eileen series, which concerns a woman who's trained as a sex slave by her partner.

Now, of course, it gets a lot of emails. So many, in fact, that I detailed

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[hollyqueen]

No insight to offer, but I have to know, does he want you to give him money or something because you did this to him? Why is he telling you all this?

[tacit]

He didn't ask for money, or even for a response. His email said he was sending me the message as a way for him to work through the terror he feels when he thinks about the story.

[apestyle]

What a ballsack.

Which is to say: what a weak, soft thing that contains all sorts of squishiness.

[merovingian]

Perhaps he's not comfortable with kink and was upset to find he was aroused? Like, he wants to be a dom, but he's scared to be a rapist, and he's having trouble telling the difference?

I know some people have this kind of reaction. They usually turn out okay within a year or two.

[nleseul]

Most people just seem to have this weird internal war between what they actually want and what they're told they're supposed to want. When they're in an id-heavy mental state, they'll binge on what they really want, and then when the superego mental state reasserts itself, they'll feel guilty and horrified at what they were just doing.

[mellyjc]

"because once their attention has been caught by something they don't like, they can't look away?"

I believe the same reasoning could be part of the reason the quality of TV programming is where it's at.

[terryo]

I have read of cases of people who 'suffer through' something they find disgusting/horrible/you-pick so that they can explain in detail to others what is 'bad' about it. eg, people who read the whole book to ascertain that there is 'no redeeming social value' to the book... Not that this guy is necessarily headed that direction, but I do think some people feel they really have to thoroughly KNOW something to justify to themselves that they reject it....

It is sort of like public nudity perhaps.... you have to look really closely to be sure that IS what it is so you are sure it is ok for you to be offended....

sigh

[frater_treinta]

In all honesty, I've done this to myself. I'll be reading or watching something and it'll get a bit triggery and I'll think to myself "I'm fine."

Sometimes it stops there, sometimes it builds up to "I'mfineI'mfineI'mfineI'mfineI'mfine."

And sometimes it resolves into "I wasn't fine then, and I'm not now."

I have not, however, ever felt the need to contact the author/creator about my failure to correctly manage my own triggers.