Sheesh. Yours is another situation where, instead of babies coming into the world making everyone warm and fuzzy, it’s caused drama and bad feelings. I don’t know how you felt about your in-laws before Sephie came, but for me, my in-laws and I got along swimmingly. But due to our parenting choices, i.e. breastfeeding, there’s a lot of tension between my husband’s parents and us, me in particular. Yours are much more severe issues, and I really don’t know how you’ve managed to keep your sanity through it all. I commend you big time for making these choices for the well being of your children, and I hope B continues to stay strong through this. I know it’s hard when a man’s wife doesn’t get along with his parents/other family members, but, he married you, he has to live with you, and therefore his loyalty should primarily be to you and your kids. Good luck!
Honestly, we had a great relationship before H came along. Once it was established P did, indeed, bear B's child, our relationship promptly hit the skids. They felt it was in H's best interest for him to have both parents together, and that B was disobeying God's law by refusing to take her back, despite that she had cheated on him and treated him rather poorly in general. I was told not to take it personally, but I honestly don't know anyone who would have a better reaction in identical circumstances. I mean, it hurt that they were actively encouraging my partner, the only man I have ever truly loved, to leave me because some idiot lied about being on birth control and the bigger idiot decided to believe her despite her clear pattern of lying and manipulation
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B did out of simply not knowing any better, I think. I did out of obligation to him, and a genuine affection for them as well, once upon a time. That affection has dissipated significantly, if not disappeared altogether.
I agree. Because I am honestly beyond the point of hating them. I have reached total apathy, and although I love him, no longer caring about making the situation work with his family of origin makes it so much easier to walk away if he continues to let them control our lives.
B NEEDS to get another job, plain and simple. I know he is staying, in theory, because someday he's supposed to inherit the business. But I honestly think your FIL could work for another 20-25-30 years and then they could just turn around and sell it. And if not... can you IMAGINE another 2-3 decades of this bullshit?
On another note... your BIL is growing weed in his parents' basement???? WTF! Do they know??
That's the conclusion I'm drawing as well. I think there is going to be an inevitable parting of ways, because they will never give B the professional respect his years of loyalty should have earned him. I don't think they'll sell it, because nobody would be idiotic enough to buy it once they had a glance at the books to see how much of the profit is seriously siphoned off to the various hands in the pie.
Nor do I think I can handle another two to three decades of this bullshit. I have no choice but to be patient right now, because I have no other options. But I've already decided to return to school, complete my own degree, and carve out a separate plan for Sephie and I.
Side note? Yep. It's totally legal, thanks to Prop 215. But it doesn't make it any less idiotic.
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I have nothing constructive to say, I honestly have no idea how you guys put up with all this nonsense.
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On another note... your BIL is growing weed in his parents' basement???? WTF! Do they know??
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Nor do I think I can handle another two to three decades of this bullshit. I have no choice but to be patient right now, because I have no other options. But I've already decided to return to school, complete my own degree, and carve out a separate plan for Sephie and I.
Side note? Yep. It's totally legal, thanks to Prop 215. But it doesn't make it any less idiotic.
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