Personal Post: Sins of My Parents

[tabloidscully]

It's no secret that I've been vocal about the abuse I've suffered in the past. As I may or may not have indicated here before, though my mother was the primary instigator, my dad has had his fair lot to apologize for, and has. That's the main reason he and I were able to grow close when I became a teenager

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[seraphprowess]

I'm not sure it's that they didn't learn anything from the experience that ripped our family apart a decade ago , but I think there's a line between learning a lesson and being able to apply it. To drastically simplify your mother's situation, there's a difference in recognizing something's wrong in a relationship/situation, acknowledging that you need to take action to either change/leave the relationship/situation, and actually being strong enough to leave it behind either by leaving physically or changing something major. I doubt you need ever to be told that change is difficult, and that most people will subconsciously sabotage themselves into not being able to change/leave the situation/relationship bc it's, for lack of a better word, uncomfortable, and it's so difficult to endure that temporary discomfort in order to prevent what seems like long-term security, even if it causes the continuation of more harsh pain. Sometimes it's much more scary to give up long-term familiar pain than it is to trend into unfamiliar potential