My BFF has a great concept: She says certain people are "Kin", and she strives to find them and hang on to them, as long as doing so isn't destructive (it rarely is). She's dated several, and it hasn't worked out (but I'm married to one and it has), so obviously she'd agree with you that the connection, while strong, isn't always best expressed romantically. But I don't think dating Kin is a bad idea -- every single one of her exes that's Kin is still a close friend of hers, and totally worth having around
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"you NEED other people, both for your own growth and to keep perspective on theirs."
I agree completely. I remember in a high school health class, we were taught about the importance of keeping up relationships with other people while in a romantic relationship. There were a lot of things in health class that I brushed off (like the no smoking, obviously), but that one really stayed with me. I guess it's one of the VERY few things I can say I've done right in all of my relationships.
I remember that when I first came to CA, my ex WAS my everything since I didn't have friends out here... and I was pretty depressed and needy until I started making my own friends. Besides, there is no one person on this earth that can be my everything. It's just not possible. Among my friends, I've got someone I can talk music with, another I can talk about gross TMI stuff, another I can talk poetry with, etc. It's like having a beautiful garden and enjoying each flower for their individual beauty.
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I agree completely. I remember in a high school health class, we were taught about the importance of keeping up relationships with other people while in a romantic relationship. There were a lot of things in health class that I brushed off (like the no smoking, obviously), but that one really stayed with me. I guess it's one of the VERY few things I can say I've done right in all of my relationships.
I remember that when I first came to CA, my ex WAS my everything since I didn't have friends out here... and I was pretty depressed and needy until I started making my own friends. Besides, there is no one person on this earth that can be my everything. It's just not possible. Among my friends, I've got someone I can talk music with, another I can talk about gross TMI stuff, another I can talk poetry with, etc. It's like having a beautiful garden and enjoying each flower for their individual beauty.
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