Random - Barbecue, S'mores and Life Changing Decisions

[supernutjapan]

Yesterday was our school's barbecue event.  There were fewer participants than usual, but that made it easier on us - even then we were quite tired of the end of the day.  We'd planned to celebrate Alex's birthday afterwards, but with leftover barbecued chicken in the fridge, and our legs and backs all aching from the barbecue, we decided to

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[starrbeam]

oh what recipe did you use for the chicken? i am always looking for good chicken recipes!

and yum you added banana to the smore. good idea!
and where would your husband want to move?

[supernutjapan]

1/2 cup ketchup
2T brown sugar
1T lemon juice
1t salt
a bit of ginger and garlic (powder or ground)
1t powdered karashi (mustard)

marinade for at least 30 minutes and grill :D (in oven: bake uncovered in 400 degree F oven, brushing occasionally with marinade until done - an hour or so)

The recipe is for spare ribs so I'd recommend that as well.

Hubby wants to move to Yatsugatake - it's an old tourist area with lots of B&Bs etc. but not much work otherwise :P

[hugemind]

Oo, the barbecue and smores look great! :D

Maybe the suggestion your hubby made was sort of an olive branch. He thought you'd like it and wanted to apologize in a way after fighting? And yeah, he may have thought that you're not really going to go through with moving to Canada. Especially if your schedule feels pretty fast to him. So he may have felt hurt that you didn't seem to consider his suggestion and then he doubted your plan because he was feeling hurt and unneeded. But this is totally just me thinking out loud without knowing things and I really hope I didn't offend you with this. I hope you can work things out and find a solution everyone's okay with. *hugs*

[supernutjapan]

Not offended in the least ;)

I agree that hubby probably felt hurt by me not answering him about his idea and thought I was being hasty. And yet, we've talked about that a fair bit too. I think the move itself is a bit scary for him as well.

[hugemind]

It probably is a bit scary for him. It's a big thing to move to another country and there's a lot to consider, especially when you have kids and need to find jobs again and everything.

[woodenshores]

I don't know how to comment on the hubby stuff because what happens between two people can only be understood by those two people. You've talked about moving for some time from what you've said but I get why it could seem like your husband wouldn't feel like leaving the only country he's ever known. Seems a bit cold of him to say that you could just take the children though. You'd think he'd want them in the same country as him... Is your desire/need to move greater/stronger than your marriage? I suppose that's the question you need to answer. *hugs*. Don't know that I can be of good advice but if you ever feel the need to talk about it in more depth, you can pm me :)

[supernutjapan]

Thanks for your thoughtful comment. We've been able to talk a bit about it since - he's been in a communicative mood for the past week - and we've talked about what we want for our school and for the kids. It's been better than it has been for ages. I don't know how long this is going to last. He might turn angry and moody again but for now he is thinking with me on the possibility of my going with Audrey or with Audrey and Julian for 3 to 6 months. I've figured that if I can get translation work from Japan (or in Canada) I'd be able to get enough of an income. It might work out :D

[meesasometimes]

ALL of that food looks delicious, and that just looks like the sweetest setting for a barbeque, Korean or American, I'd be happy to partake!

I'm thrilled to have upped the ante on the smores, that looks delicious.

I hope your domestic situation finds it's way to a place that works for everyone. It's such hard work, I can't imagine what that feels like to not be on the same page, wanting different things. So many choices and decisions and sacrifices to be made. I hope that you find something that works for both of you.

[supernutjapan]

It was great! And a nice small group to enjoy it with :D I would have loved if you could have come ♡

Thank you *hugs*
We've been able to talk about the possibility of going to Canada a bit since and it's been good. Hope we find a good solution!