Blown Off

[superhappytime]

When I was 22 I accepted a job 2000 miles away from my friends and family for reasons I'm not sure I understand even today. I think I expected joining the work force to be like starting college; it would be tough at first, but inevitably I would make some new friends among my co-workers and neighbors. Upon my arrival it took me less than a week

Comments

[andreamarie]

I have never blown anyone off.

[superhappytime]

Yeah, 'cause you got married at like 18!

[andreamarie]

I was almost 23!

[contingent]

I think you're supposed to throw the date when you know it's going badly. like act unpleasant enough that it's pretty clear it's best for all concerned to go their separate ways. The need for a Blow Off means that someone screwed up getting or receiving a message during the last meeting.

I had a friend who once told me he faked a limp on a first date.

[superhappytime]

Perhaps. Personally, I always act like I'm having a nice time and then let them know after that I'm not interested. Unless the person is just an asshole and really hard to be around.

[saxymoni]

I did The Blow Off once in my entire dating career and I felt really bad about it. I was in this really strange place and I didn't know what I wanted, so I just didn't do anything at all. Finally the guy called and left me a message just wanting to know that I was alive... so I called him back, apologized for being a jerk, and we went our separate ways. I felt really bad about it though.

[superhappytime]

That's not even that terrible...I mean, it sucks having to call someone to find out what they want, but at least you you did respond rather than just ignoring the calls.

[selucius]

I call it The Ignore Button. There is nothing in dating more frustrating and/or irritating than The Ignore Button. Like you said, complete honesty not necessary, but common courtesy, yes.

[superhappytime]

Yeah. Rejection sucks, but it's over and you move on in a few minutes. Having to play guessing games for a week makes you feel less than human.

[katyblue]

It is so high school too! I gave this guy I wasn't interested in a few dates, but no spark. I just kept turning down his date offers, he finally got it after I told him I couldn't have dinner with him cause of my "doing laundry" plans for the evening. I could never just do the ignore button to someone who I've been on more than a few dates with.

[superhappytime]

You're exactly right--high school is how I would describe it. It's sad that people can't grow up at some point in their 20s.

[welfy]

I've been getting blown off by a guy on and off for two years now. Just when I've forgotten about him, he'll text me saying he wants to see me, out of the blue, but then doesn't follow through. It doesn't make sense to me.

[superhappytime]

well, that's just being flaky...as opposed to him seeing you, then disappearing when you expect to hear from him again...