I'm sometimes in this situation (though I'm not working, I'm trying to clean up or do household stuff) and I really try to let Norma and C work it out. If C is REALLY being awful, and I hear H starting to cry too (he sometimes cries/gets upset if she is throwing a trantrum) I will step in... but it's easier for me to put off whatever I am doing since it's not "work," kwim? If I were in your shoes I would do my best to let them work it out.
stay out of it!!!! if you don't, then you're going to find yourself having to step in all.the.time.
i know it's hard, but stepping in will totally undermine your nanny's authority. Not only will it send the message to Noelle that the nanny isn't the one in control, I reeeaaallly think it will piss your nanny off if you step in. She needs to set the boundaries and establish that she is the "adult in charge" when you are working.
It must be so hard to hear it going on though!! Good luck!
Yep, you know the right thing, but oh man its soooo hard! I work from home too and know I'd have the same issue if we had a nanny here. I have the same conflict on days when Ryan and the kids have a day off school, but I still have to work. I always want to intervene, but that also sends a bad message. Not only to the kids, but to Ryan. He gets so mad if I intervene when he's trying to handle something a certain way. Then I think about it and realize, who am I to think I actually could do it better? I think it would just feel better in the moment because its so uncomfortable to listen to the crying, but the truth is, they'd probably still tantrum if I was out there too :)
Good luck getting through today! If it makes you feel better, maybe you could bring it up with the Nanny later and give her some tips about what works for you if she's ever in that situation again. That might be equally as problematic, but might also help and might make you feel better, like you still had a part in resolving the situation. I'm not sure. Just a
It's also not fair to Ginger to go out there; she will feel like you are always listening and she's not really in charge, you know? I think it's probably better to stay in your office. Sorry--must be painful!!
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i know it's hard, but stepping in will totally undermine your nanny's authority. Not only will it send the message to Noelle that the nanny isn't the one in control, I reeeaaallly think it will piss your nanny off if you step in. She needs to set the boundaries and establish that she is the "adult in charge" when you are working.
It must be so hard to hear it going on though!! Good luck!
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Good luck getting through today! If it makes you feel better, maybe you could bring it up with the Nanny later and give her some tips about what works for you if she's ever in that situation again. That might be equally as problematic, but might also help and might make you feel better, like you still had a part in resolving the situation. I'm not sure. Just a
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