I have some experience with creating codes of conduct, so if you're thinking of formalizing something like that for your parties, let me know and I'd be glad to help you with it.
No. Please stop. You're attacking someone you admittedly don't know about a situation with which you are unfamiliar, based on some things you read
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I am only responding to that one comment, in which sunspiral as much as stated that he does not care about his other guests, but only about what directly affects "him and his".
I went back and double-checked that comment and I do not see how you're deriving this. One of the earliest comments in this post was a note that the policies as presented here do not contain explicit (enough for some people) protections for party guests. sunspiral seems to be consistent in stating that he is making these rules to respond to what he sees as a threat to himself and his family. Nowhere do I see a lack of concern for his guests.
I am sorry that your partner abused your relationship and raped you. I'm further sorry that you had to give up on (part of) your community. It sounds like you were not supported by people who ought to have been your friends, and I am sorry to hear that happened to you.
I can't give anyone a free pass to side with their friend who has admitted to raping someone, because that does nothing but enable rapists.I understand your
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I don't know what your experience has been in coordinating large, complicated, expensive-to-produce events at a private residence. We post our invitations to some very large mailing lists where we don't know all the people but would like to meet them. Hundreds of people attend and generally have a really good time. If these parties were smaller events where every guest was hand-picked for compatibility it would be a completely different matter. Intentionally that's not what these are. And our experience is that under the best of circumstances, a restraining order does become a logistical headache.
Apologies if my choice of words has infuriated you, but to just about anyone, the safety of their family and home comes first. I may have just been a bit blunt about expressing it.
I have some experience with creating codes of conduct, so if you're thinking of formalizing something like that for your parties, let me know and I'd be glad to help you with it.
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I went back and double-checked that comment and I do not see how you're deriving this. One of the earliest comments in this post was a note that the policies as presented here do not contain explicit (enough for some people) protections for party guests. sunspiral seems to be consistent in stating that he is making these rules to respond to what he sees as a threat to himself and his family. Nowhere do I see a lack of concern for his guests.
I am sorry that your partner abused your relationship and raped you. I'm further sorry that you had to give up on (part of) your community. It sounds like you were not supported by people who ought to have been your friends, and I am sorry to hear that happened to you.
I can't give anyone a free pass to side with their friend who has admitted to raping someone, because that does nothing but enable rapists.I understand your ( ... )
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Apologies if my choice of words has infuriated you, but to just about anyone, the safety of their family and home comes first. I may have just been a bit blunt about expressing it.
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