Sending Up A Flare...

[summers_place]

Okay, I'm going to bring this to the LJ hive-mind, because I can't think where else to bring it. I don't know if anyone here will have any ideas for me, or anything else for that matter, but I need to tell my story on the off-chance someone does.

For those who don't know, my marriage ended in the spring of 2011, not long after my father entered a

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[soon_lee]

I am very sorry you are going through this.

[anonymous]

Well, I know from experience that when a marriage didn't work, the same couple can start over with a very different relationship that does work.

Counseling helps. And counseling helps to avoid mistakes (like trying to room with the wrong people) in the meantime.

Good luck.

[summers_place]

Well, we won't be continuing as a couple, because both of us would have to want that. We did discuss it once or twice, but it would've involved counseling and he just didn't want to go that route. I'm okay with that, as I think the mismatch in our approach to relationships is a bit too thorough to make a healthy marriage.

As for myself, this whole current thing has shaken me enough to talk to someone periodically for a while in order to keep my head on straight while I deal with it, but the only place around here where I could get counseling without it costing me is on the other side of Cleveland, which brings me back to transportation issues. They're in an iffy neighborhood I don't want to wait for a bus in at night, and daytime is for work.

[affinity8]

I'm sorry to hear all this. It's a perfect storm of bad luck and bad news, and it's no wonder you are feeling depressed, disheartened, and tired of it all.

There are no easy answers or solutions, and you are so far down in the well that of course it's tempting to give up on daylight. At the same time, however, you realize you're in a bad spot, and you're reaching out for help. I encourage you to keep doing that, by any means possible, whether it's professional counseling in person, or friends on the internet, or a phone hotline - anything that works.

You're educated, hard-working, and enduring a horrible economy in a horrible place. But you're focusing on your priorities: transportation, a better job, a better place to live.

One day at a time sounds trite, but it works. I will keep you in my thoughts and hope things turnaround soon.

[summers_place]

Thank you.

[ebon_bear]

*hugs*

[ext_1782065]

Wow, I feel so "helpless" now! You know if fate would of had a BETTER calendar!!! John & I were up in Cleveland the weekend of April 13/14 and then down back through Cleveland around April 17/18.....sheesh! YOU could of....WE could of just tucked you in the car w a couple of clothes & you could of come down here to "recoup"! And ya know, I was thinking of giving YOU a call as we passed through! Damn our luck! Don't have any suggestions now....but I'm thinking! Meanwhile, I'm sending some positive energy, ideas, & opened doors your way! I feel like such a "maroon"...for NOT calling you! ...I need to listen to "self" more often & FOLLOW through! Love ya!

[summers_place]

Awww, thanks for the good vibes!