1.) My neighbor's music is so loud I can feel the bass vibrating through the floor. Parents will not be here for a few more hours, so I must wait this out
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awkward comment by random acquaintancekallielOctober 18 2009, 23:13:14 UTC
I know exactly what you mean. And it's lovely, because that kind of thing always goes down when everything else is happening. Cue epic frustration, what with the music and the GREs and just grad school apps in general and now the personal relationship dilemmas. But you are fucking amazing, all around. So I know it'll work out for you. Sooner rather than later, I hope. *cheer*
An observation, from someone who's both been there, and seen you in action for a while now.
You're neither blind nor stupid, you're just doing what every *NTJ with a type A streak and a desire to assert control over difficult issues in their life has ever done, basically in the history of ever.
You don't have to work that hard to be Teh Caring Friend. Relax. Blasting emotional energy at people won't make them automatically care about you. You know? If you've got the energy to spare, blast away, but don't waste emotional energy being upset when/if they don't reciprocate. They may or may not. In a way, by being caring towards EVERYONE, you're casting a wide net. You'll find some friends, some indifferent people, a few selfish bastards. If you can take the net loss, go ahead and care for everyone. If you can't, be selective. But be aware of what you're doing either way.
Do you really need everyone to care about you back? Being a decent human being to everyone is pretty effortless. From that baseline, you can reserve your
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I am clearly very blind, stupid, or a combination of the two, when it comes to friendships and to people.
Will it make you feel better if I say that you're not the only one? :/
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You're neither blind nor stupid, you're just doing what every *NTJ with a type A streak and a desire to assert control over difficult issues in their life has ever done, basically in the history of ever.
You don't have to work that hard to be Teh Caring Friend. Relax. Blasting emotional energy at people won't make them automatically care about you. You know? If you've got the energy to spare, blast away, but don't waste emotional energy being upset when/if they don't reciprocate. They may or may not. In a way, by being caring towards EVERYONE, you're casting a wide net. You'll find some friends, some indifferent people, a few selfish bastards. If you can take the net loss, go ahead and care for everyone. If you can't, be selective. But be aware of what you're doing either way.
Do you really need everyone to care about you back? Being a decent human being to everyone is pretty effortless. From that baseline, you can reserve your ( ... )
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