Fuck this shit.
I am a survivor of rape and sexual assault.
I refuse to hide behind this line of social acceptance and making the rest of the world comfortable. I do NOT want to be ashamed about who I am and what has happened to me. I did not ask for this. I did not ask for it to happen to me.
To insinuate or imply that I should not state outright, the fact that this has occurred to me, as a credible reason when I protest in any space, whether it be public or private, whether it be in a classroom, in the workplace, or in an online chatroom, something I consider intrinsically harmful and oppressive to me and my sexuality and my gender, and all women, to tell me that it is "problematic" is completely unacceptable.
To tell me that I am "overreacting" or that I am "taking it too seriously" is symptomatic of a larger problem: this kind of shit is so socially accepted that the victim is the one who always must make concessions for the betterment and the comfort of the rest of the world she lives in, and must remain silent about the fact about what has happened because the rest of the world should be the one that should be comfortable while the victim, who has just been reminded of what has happened to her, and of all the other women out there that these things happen to, should remain silent because it is not acceptable for her to exist.
In fact, she shouldn't even exist. It's better if she doesn't, and better if she remains silent on the matter and not speak out her opinion in any environment she deems necessary because it is that important, for the sake of the common good.
Or so people like to think.
Well, fuck that shit.
I am writing this publicly because I know there are others of you on my friends list who have been sexually assaulted or raped. And I just want to say that: there is no reason why any of us should feel like we can't or shouldn't speak up about it when someone makes crude jokes about rape and treats it lightly like it is something that is okay to be laughed about.
It is not okay. It will never be okay.
Racist, anti-semitic jokes are not funny either. Neither is rape or sexual assault.
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I refuse to hide behind this line of social acceptance and making the rest of the world comfortable. I do NOT want to be ashamed about who I am and what has happened to me. I did not ask for this. I did not ask for it to happen to me.
To insinuate or imply that I should not state outright, the fact that this has occurred to me, as a credible reason when I protest in any space, whether it be public or private, whether it be in a classroom, in the workplace, or in an online chatroom, something I consider intrinsically harmful and oppressive to me and my sexuality and my gender, and all women, to tell me that it is "problematic" is completely unacceptable.
To tell me that I am "overreacting" or that I am "taking it too seriously" is symptomatic of a larger problem: this kind of shit is so socially accepted that the victim is the one who always must make concessions for the betterment and the comfort of the rest of the world she lives in, and must remain silent about the fact about what has happened because the rest of the world should be the one that should be comfortable while the victim, who has just been reminded of what has happened to her, and of all the other women out there that these things happen to, should remain silent because it is not acceptable for her to exist.
In fact, she shouldn't even exist. It's better if she doesn't, and better if she remains silent on the matter and not speak out her opinion in any environment she deems necessary because it is that important, for the sake of the common good.
Or so people like to think.
Well, fuck that shit.
I am writing this publicly because I know there are others of you on my friends list who have been sexually assaulted or raped. And I just want to say that: there is no reason why any of us should feel like we can't or shouldn't speak up about it when someone makes crude jokes about rape and treats it lightly like it is something that is okay to be laughed about.
It is not okay. It will never be okay.
Racist, anti-semitic jokes are not funny either. Neither is rape or sexual assault.
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