This fucking guy IMs me on JDate, and he lives in the next town, so I respond. He asks if I have any more pictures. Sure. He says that ones where I'm in a skirt are preferable
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I used both Match.com and EHarmony in the past and got one whole date out of the insane amount of money I paid for their services. I talk back to the EHarmony commercials all the time when they are on about how worthless their service was.
I wrote e-harmony the NASTIEST e-mail after I canceled that service, because their fee is SO HIGH, and if they would stop with the freakin' TV and radio ads, they could lower their fee! I got nothing from eHarmony. I got one date out of Match too.
I have a friend using eHarmony right now too, she can't wait till her membership is up.
Re: YES!silentbob037September 6 2005, 06:03:55 UTC
There was the one date that I got from EHarmony which I thought went really well but then she never called me back again after it. Match.com is just a waste of time because the women there take a look at my photo and some of my interests and tune out on the spot. I guess I don't quite rate as the studly and cool guy that they all imagine is waiting for them on that site.
Re: YES!silentbob037September 8 2005, 14:44:57 UTC
i have the same problem..
Here's somthing I found that works a little better than telling about yourself in your profile.. be vague and tell nothing about yourself.. you get a lot more responses. I know it sounds ridiculous, but it worked for me.
I had a nice long profile with my interests.. i had no one interested in chatting even. Then I took out all the substance, and put in fluff.. BAM i had girls interested in chatting..
Re: Woah.. chillax yo..chanolSeptember 5 2005, 20:02:43 UTC
Ok... regardless of whether or not anyone thinks Meri "overreacted," no one has the right to downplay her emotions. They are hers and hers alone, and are valid for her to have. If she was insulted, annoyed, offended... no one can tell her she was wrong. Her emotions are her own, and how anyone else would have acted in the situation has very little bearing on her.
Now as a woman who has quite recently dealt with this sort of thing, I understand her point. There are many other ways for a man to pay his compliments. She was offended - enough said. How one woman might or might not react does not make Meri's feelings wrong in any way.
Re: Woah.. chillax yo..trancekatSeptember 6 2005, 04:47:07 UTC
You're absolutely on the money.. but I never said she was wrong, nor do I even beleive I could ever make her "wrong".. only made an observation about how she was acting and responding.
Re: Woah.. chillax yo..strawbgirlSeptember 5 2005, 23:11:08 UTC
It happens repeatedly, first of all, and I reached my limit. I've spent the last 2 1/2 to 3 years laughing at stupid people, but everyone has a limit, ya know? I've reached it. I haven't posted about it every time, so maybe there's no way for others to know about how often, and how pervy it gets.
Secondly, why is it when a woman gets upset with something, she's "uptight"? That really bothers me. Whenever I'm upset about something, I find I can always count on a guy to tell me to "relax"... just what I fucking need -- to be told how to feel. Sure, I'll just "chill out"... lemme find that switch...
I also remember when you were frustrated about dating in the 00's... I seem to remember one journal entry in particular that was kind of bitter. But I didn't tell you to "chill out." Because your feelings are valid.
You seem to have met a nice girl, and that's great. It makes it somewhat easy to forget how infuriating it can be to try to meet someone nice.
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I wrote e-harmony the NASTIEST e-mail after I canceled that service, because their fee is SO HIGH, and if they would stop with the freakin' TV and radio ads, they could lower their fee! I got nothing from eHarmony. I got one date out of Match too.
I have a friend using eHarmony right now too, she can't wait till her membership is up.
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Here's somthing I found that works a little better than telling about yourself in your profile.. be vague and tell nothing about yourself.. you get a lot more responses. I know it sounds ridiculous, but it worked for me.
I had a nice long profile with my interests.. i had no one interested in chatting even. Then I took out all the substance, and put in fluff.. BAM i had girls interested in chatting..
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Chill out.. you are WAY too uptight.. don't stress so much. Take it as a compliment or humor.
Don't take yourself so seriously.. things will be a lot easier for you.
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Now as a woman who has quite recently dealt with this sort of thing, I understand her point. There are many other ways for a man to pay his compliments. She was offended - enough said. How one woman might or might not react does not make Meri's feelings wrong in any way.
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Secondly, why is it when a woman gets upset with something, she's "uptight"? That really bothers me. Whenever I'm upset about something, I find I can always count on a guy to tell me to "relax"... just what I fucking need -- to be told how to feel. Sure, I'll just "chill out"... lemme find that switch...
I also remember when you were frustrated about dating in the 00's... I seem to remember one journal entry in particular that was kind of bitter. But I didn't tell you to "chill out." Because your feelings are valid.
You seem to have met a nice girl, and that's great. It makes it somewhat easy to forget how infuriating it can be to try to meet someone nice.
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