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[solitary_hawk]

Hey there. I just found this community and thought I'd introduce myself. The name's Tobias. I'm a 19-year-old bisexual pre-everything FtM, with a straight bio-guy partner. I doubt he'll be joining anytime soon, as he's not big on communities, but I figured I'd join, at least. ;x

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[sima_zhongda]

Discussion is good. I think I understand where you're coming from- my husband was an excellent sport about it all and has been totally supportive the whole time. My feelings about the entire situation were much the same as yours, but the more that I came to accept that this is who I am, the better it got. Make any sense?

It also seems to me that, the more you play things up (through nervousness, etc.; it's a human reaction), the bigger deal it seems to the person you're trying to talk to. For instance, when someone says "There's something that I have to tell you..." it gets a reaction of "!!! Oh no! What is this earth-shattering thing?" whereas if you just go "Oh, by the way..." Play it cool. I know what I mean, I just can't talk. I suck.

Good luck! :3

[solitary_hawk]

Yeah, I definitely understand what you mean there. Especially the last bit. You're not alone there. But yeah, thank you. It's a big help. ♥

[solitary_hawk]

(Sorry if that response was a bit incoherent. I was running on very little sleep. Still am, but y'know, figured I'd apologise in advance before I forgot.)

[solitary_hawk]

Yeah, all of our serious discussions thus far have been through instant messengers, for the most part. It just seems to work better.

Thank you for the advice. ♥ I really appreciate it.

[solitary_hawk]

Good points all. I'm typically the other end of the spectrum--I get more depressed than angry, and then I feel bad talking about it because I feel like I'm making things difficult. But thus far he's never reacted negatively when I've brought it up, so I think everyone's right about talking to him about it.

Thanks for the advice. ♥ It's much appreciated.

[medicalfairy]

You know, there are some guys out there that really are just attracted to you 'cause you're you.
It helps to be reminded about that occasionally.

[solitary_hawk]

Heh, yeah. Thanks.