I've been crying on and off since last night about all this bullshit, but only some of it has been sad/angry tears, because the rest are just- godamn, I am proud of you and all of us and how strong we are together.
KITABABE, I feel the same for you. And I KNOW that not everyone is in a position to speak out, so I would feel incredibly guilty if I didn't.
Seriously, I am so fucking proud of what is becoming the outcome here: voices are FINALLY being heard, people are FINALLY pulling out those rotten, festering thorns, and squaring their shoulders.
I love you, babe, and I think you're pretty bad ass.
Everyone that signs their name to this (in a manner of speaking, be it here, or elsewhere) is saying it, too, imo. That's the best outcome to all of this, I think.
I gotta say: the number of people who do get it versus the few in this conversation that don't get it does somewhat restore my faith. We are awesome together.
Yeah, I hope so, but she still doesn't seem to have a firm grasp on other factors that were at play in that room and why it was never just as simple as "I'm uncomfortable." And 200 or so comments of people saying "please rethink this" don't seem to have gotten through. But I'm an optimist, so fingers crossed!
Man, I want some regenerating sword hands. like, yesterday.
I'm a four-time sexual assault survivor, and yes, yes, yes and yes. I have had a lot of therapy; I am older and wiser than I once was; I have a wonderful network of powerful friends who support me - and yet I *still* tense for victim-blaming when I tell someone new about my life. I'm at a point in my recovery where I don't let that stop me, but there's still a cost - a physical, emotional, mental, stomach-pounding, body-memory-paining cost - which is just one of the many reasons why I am so freaking happy and grateful and proud to meet any woman where she's at, to ringingly endorse her protective silence or her shouting from the rooftops or anything in between.
Of to post something very similar to your penultimate paragraph in my own journal, because someone, somewhere, needs to hear that today.
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Yes, yes, yes!
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I've been crying on and off since last night about all this bullshit, but only some of it has been sad/angry tears, because the rest are just- godamn, I am proud of you and all of us and how strong we are together.
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Seriously, I am so fucking proud of what is becoming the outcome here: voices are FINALLY being heard, people are FINALLY pulling out those rotten, festering thorns, and squaring their shoulders.
I love you, babe, and I think you're pretty bad ass.
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Thank you for this, seriously. Thank you for articulating what many of us go through but are unable to talk about ourselves. Thank you.
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*hugs back*
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(You might be interested in my eta, btw.)
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Yeah, I hope so, but she still doesn't seem to have a firm grasp on other factors that were at play in that room and why it was never just as simple as "I'm uncomfortable." And 200 or so comments of people saying "please rethink this" don't seem to have gotten through. But I'm an optimist, so fingers crossed!
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I'm a four-time sexual assault survivor, and yes, yes, yes and yes. I have had a lot of therapy; I am older and wiser than I once was; I have a wonderful network of powerful friends who support me - and yet I *still* tense for victim-blaming when I tell someone new about my life. I'm at a point in my recovery where I don't let that stop me, but there's still a cost - a physical, emotional, mental, stomach-pounding, body-memory-paining cost - which is just one of the many reasons why I am so freaking happy and grateful and proud to meet any woman where she's at, to ringingly endorse her protective silence or her shouting from the rooftops or anything in between.
Of to post something very similar to your penultimate paragraph in my own journal, because someone, somewhere, needs to hear that today.
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"because someone, somewhere, needs to hear that today." AMEN, SISTER.
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