happy vid!

[stjolan]

Oh god, this vid almost makes me cry of happiness every time I see it. What an amazing way to propose. A friend of mine used it to try and convinve his girlfriend about the benefits of marriagge. LOL. I don't think it worked.  :-p
I couldn't care less about marriage myself actually, it's not a very romantical thought to me

but this is:

<3 The Dancing

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[hechicera]

Dancing Jews were my fave!

Tremendously romantic, but I always ponder, with these lavish public proposals, the tremendous pressure to say "yes" that they place on the woman in the moment. I wonder how many of these engagements make it to the altar.

I'm also a bit bemused by the trend back toward the traditional marriage proposal. I confess I don't like the return to the idea that the woman's default position is wanting to get married, and her role is just to wait passively until the man makes his move.

The fabulous Mr H certainly never proposed to me. We just, as things got more and more serious and permanent-seeming, had conversations about where things were headed until we finally decided to do the deed.

I must say, it's worked out pretty well.

[holyfant]

Yeah, this. I've always loved this vid, and I hope this couple is seriously tremendously happy to be engaged and blah blah but I'm always at least a little weirded out by the realisation that there really is no way she can say no to this without making a LOT of friends and loved ones extremely uncomfortable. The only way that it's really ok is if they discussed it beforehand and agreed that they'd like to get married and btw, that they were both into big public proposals.

I dunno, I think I'd feel at least a little resentful if a partner proposed to me like this without getting my opinion on it first. *shrugs*

Those friends, though. This couple has AWESOME FRIENDS.

[stjolan]

Yeah, have to admit I was thinking about that as well. But then I guess that they maybe already had decided to marry but still wanted the proposal to happen? Dunno, but some friends of mine did it that way :-p.

I remember when I did salsa, how I hated it that men were supposed to go 'n ask the ladies to dance. Must be even worse for women if they feel like having no options AT ALL, but to wait.

Don't know if I'll ever get married. Depends on the partner and the (dis)advantages I guess. In Belgium for example it's legal for gay people to adopt, but in reality it's impossible. So, in that way at least, not being married to another man would actually be an advantage.

We'll see, I don't really care that much (about marriage, DO care about adoption rights)