I think most people act somewhat differently depending on who they're interacting with...the way I interact with my sister or mother is very different from how I interact with co-workers, and in turn I act rather differently amongst friends (often changing how I'll speak or talk depending on the friend in question too). I don't really think that makes me a hypocrite...in all those situations, I'm still fundamentally me at my core--I just know that sometimes some of the people I interact with tend to have their own different preferences for social interactions and the like, and so unconsciously I end up adjusting somewhat to those preferences or what I feel is appropriate for a given social situation. I know those people also do the same thing when interacting with me or others as well...so I've never really thought of it as being hypocritical, more like an odd quirk of social protocol that people unconsciously integrate into. Truthfully in certain situations, it's just easier...my uncle is horribly ignorant and will go into rants
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And granted, a deeper, darker part of myself seems to think that any girl that falls for a guy - no matter how handsome he happens to be - in a day is one stupid woman. I’m not being misogynistic here. This law applies for guys as well. I don’t believe in love at first sight. ~Yeah...that would probably be my viewpoint too. XD I feel bad in a way, because I think when people do feel that way...they honestly do feel it, but I kind of feel like that's maybe because the person is more in love with the idea of being in love than in actually being in love with the other person in that case. I've never really understood the concept of love at first sight: a crush? Yes. A "they seem really nice and they're easy on the eyes...I'd like to get to know them more!" moment after a day? Totally understandable! But...love? That takes more time to build, that you have to kind of understand someone a lot before that could realistically take place. That's even the whole concept why someone goes from stranger, acquaintance, friend, to *really*
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Thank you for your very well-written response to my post. I'm actually flattered that you would take the time and the effort to think about what I wrote here (and indirectly reassure me that I'm not writing nonsense that no one wants to read
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You're welcome...I always find your posts really interesting and insightful to read! :)
Morality is very subjective to begin with, and since society tends to exist in shades of gray in reality...I think it's natural to identify more with morally ambiguous protagonists in things (truthfully, I find them far more relatable than their Shining Heroes or Maniacal Villain counterparts...since I think their viewpoints fit more for how a person might realistically approach situations).
From your posts here, I've always thought of you has a being a really good and thoughtful person given your viewpoints on things. ♥
Secondly, I think it's a wonderful thing to know and to understand people. In fact, there are so many individuals and lives and stories throughout the world. Every single human being you've encountered in your life has his or her own story, his or her own secrets and flaws. People are imperfect and therefore society would be naturally be imperfect as well. I find a lot of the rules and constraints pointless, is all. They detract
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Haha, I always wonder, do a lot of people actually believe that they "love" someone at first sight? I don't think I've ever met someone who actually thought that way (maybe some people may say it like that, but in fact they're just being facetious or just mean "crush" or "lust at first sight" lol) so all the scoffing at people who believe it just seemed like a lot of straw-man targetting to me. I definitely also think that real love for someone is a feeling that is developed over time. The only way I can see "love at first sight" happening legitimately is if the people involved have previously loved each other in another lifetime and just never quite lost the memory they have of each other and so naturally feel drawn to each other. I do think that can happen, but it's probably really rare considering that very few people actually remember past lives. In these cases though, I guess you could say it isn't really "first sight" anyway. xD
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Ah, yeah. I agree. It is worth considering also that many people don't seem to see "love" the same way we do so perhaps to them it could work out. Like you mentioned, many are in "crushes" and jump straight to fulfill their baser instincts and jump to the erroneous conclusion that it was "love". I'm scoffing at those who believe so AND actually act on it and hurt other people (and eventually themselves) in the process. Though I do admit that it was pretty judgmental of me.
I know. We were originally just joking and I put it here because I thought there was some measure of truth to it. And these categories, like you said, are just that. It's too difficult to box the human psyche into such nice… um. Boxes.
That's true, people have different definitions of "love", and modern society has definitely helped to, well, cheapen the meaning quite a bit for a lot of people. xD; ...but yeah, I wish people wouldn't rush into these romantic relationships like that and end up hurting each other as a result. :(
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~Yeah...that would probably be my viewpoint too. XD I feel bad in a way, because I think when people do feel that way...they honestly do feel it, but I kind of feel like that's maybe because the person is more in love with the idea of being in love than in actually being in love with the other person in that case. I've never really understood the concept of love at first sight: a crush? Yes. A "they seem really nice and they're easy on the eyes...I'd like to get to know them more!" moment after a day? Totally understandable! But...love? That takes more time to build, that you have to kind of understand someone a lot before that could realistically take place. That's even the whole concept why someone goes from stranger, acquaintance, friend, to *really* ( ... )
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Morality is very subjective to begin with, and since society tends to exist in shades of gray in reality...I think it's natural to identify more with morally ambiguous protagonists in things (truthfully, I find them far more relatable than their Shining Heroes or Maniacal Villain counterparts...since I think their viewpoints fit more for how a person might realistically approach situations).
From your posts here, I've always thought of you has a being a really good and thoughtful person given your viewpoints on things. ♥
Secondly, I think it's a wonderful thing to know and to understand people. In fact, there are so many individuals and lives and stories throughout the world. Every single human being you've encountered in your life has his or her own story, his or her own secrets and flaws. People are imperfect and therefore society would be naturally be imperfect as well. I find a lot of the rules and constraints pointless, is all. They detract ( ... )
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I know. We were originally just joking and I put it here because I thought there was some measure of truth to it. And these categories, like you said, are just that. It's too difficult to box the human psyche into such nice… um. Boxes.
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