I am currently wrasslin' with the sickness, and just in from work, and work makes me stupid. But tomorrow, if i'm at all coherent, i will look at IMR. In fact, first thing you should do tomorrow is email me (or get me a-twitterin', whatevs) and be all BITCH YOU NEED TO LOOK AT MY FIC GODDAMMIT.
I did read it at work on Monday, and liked it, but a)i was at work and b)i was unable to leave comments because work and gdocs were in a fight. But if i'm the only thing you're waiting on, fuck it, it's brilliant, post. And i'm sorry i've fallen through the cracks. This whole sick thing (with added bonus of girl!time, fuck yeah, which is making me sad because that means the big gay road trip was already a month ago, bb) is making this whole last few days make a lot more sense now.
Also, how much do i hate that i can't step out my door and get on a train and end up in Chicago? (Eat a dick, Scott Walker.) Because man, i would totally come over for pancakes on Sunday.
Oh no, old news - first thing he did when he came into office was gave back the money for the high speed rail from Madison to Milwaukee.
Also, i was brushing my teeth and realized i hadn't spoken at all to the girl situation. Which is to say, i think taking it slow is a very good idea, especially if she doesn't know anyone else in Chicago, because there's nothing like trying to find yourself while feeling beholden to someone who's there because of you. And i selfishly think she should move to Madison so i can see you more. (;
Hmm, that sounds like a hard situation to navigate with the former girlfriend. I have a kneejerk bad reaction to equating uncomfortableness with monogamy with fear of "commitment," but that's because I'm Militantly Poly. I'd say if other people were telling you you're afraid of commitment, they can stuff it, but you know yourself and if a monogamous relationship is something you genuinely want but fear then that's where you are.
It's less a fear of commitment, more an allergy to settling down. I don't mind committing to crazy impulses (which is why I've lived in 4 different states in the last 7 years, and have a collection of random tattoos), but actually settling into something with the idea of it being long-term and stable is oddly unsettling. I mean, one of the the things I told N in our conversation was that I might move to San Francisco next June if I get a writing internship out there.
Not that I don't think poly relationships can be/are stable and long term, but it's a different kind of stability, with a different set of expectations. At least, the kind of relationship I'd want is.
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I did read it at work on Monday, and liked it, but a)i was at work and b)i was unable to leave comments because work and gdocs were in a fight. But if i'm the only thing you're waiting on, fuck it, it's brilliant, post. And i'm sorry i've fallen through the cracks. This whole sick thing (with added bonus of girl!time, fuck yeah, which is making me sad because that means the big gay road trip was already a month ago, bb) is making this whole last few days make a lot more sense now.
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Also, i was brushing my teeth and realized i hadn't spoken at all to the girl situation. Which is to say, i think taking it slow is a very good idea, especially if she doesn't know anyone else in Chicago, because there's nothing like trying to find yourself while feeling beholden to someone who's there because of you. And i selfishly think she should move to Madison so i can see you more. (;
Moar when i'm coherent.
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Not that I don't think poly relationships can be/are stable and long term, but it's a different kind of stability, with a different set of expectations. At least, the kind of relationship I'd want is.
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