I haven't been posting much lately, in part, because I started my new job on Monday, but largely because I've been sick. I finally realized last night that the sickness is stress-induced (or stress-exacerbated
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Would you like me to send you a chunk of California? I think we can spare some - hell, I'll throw in one of these ol' leftover H&A hippies (I've got some in the pantry, just chillin' man...). Just don't forget to water him as they tend to stink after a while without a shower.
Only part of it is falling off, though. Northern CA is pretty good and attached (for the most part). SoCal, on the other hand... Well let's just say that Disneyland will be Aqualand.
[defensiveness] Yes, when you were homesick and saying you weren't sure the divorce had been a good idea, I wasn't as sympathetic as you might have hoped. And I'm defensive about it, but I don't have to validate your emotions about that. You may miss me and the pigs, and I know you've got stress, but that doesn't mean I should pretend that I think we should try to resuscitate our dead marriage. [/defensiveness]
Anyway, I'm sorry to hear about your hassles and your grandfather. I think you should get lots of rest and lots of liquids, and beyond that I don't have a lot of advice. I hope you feel better.
I knew that you'd respond to that one little part. Sometimes I think that you treat me slightly worse than you would someone else because you're scared of the implications of treating me well
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You know, I do keep my distance a little more than I did before. But then, before we were married and, you know, not dating other people. So I actually am not ashamed that there's a sudden change, and it's for good reasons. You're no longer my future, or mine to protect, or my confidant, or my wife.
My strategy is noticeably different than yours. You're comfortable being familiar with more people and maybe keeping your options open. You can feel like you love more than one person. I, on the other hand, tend to err in the other direction, and would rather break an old bond before creating a new one. I'm not comfortable doing what you do, and I don't intend to do it. I can respect that you do it, but you're going to have to understand that I won't do it. I can be your friend, but I can't and won't act as though we're not divorced.
I'm sorry hon. Stress is never any fun, and lots of stress at once is even worse...I'm feeling it myself lately too :/
I know it must be hard to have all that shit going on with Fouad too. I'm having a hard time with Mike and I not seeing eye to eye on the stuff with my sister, and it's very frustrating to feel like the one person who should be your advocate and support is causing more stress for you.
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Yes, when you were homesick and saying you weren't sure the divorce had been a good idea, I wasn't as sympathetic as you might have hoped. And I'm defensive about it, but I don't have to validate your emotions about that. You may miss me and the pigs, and I know you've got stress, but that doesn't mean I should pretend that I think we should try to resuscitate our dead marriage.
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Anyway, I'm sorry to hear about your hassles and your grandfather. I think you should get lots of rest and lots of liquids, and beyond that I don't have a lot of advice. I hope you feel better.
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My strategy is noticeably different than yours. You're comfortable being familiar with more people and maybe keeping your options open. You can feel like you love more than one person. I, on the other hand, tend to err in the other direction, and would rather break an old bond before creating a new one. I'm not comfortable doing what you do, and I don't intend to do it. I can respect that you do it, but you're going to have to understand that I won't do it. I can be your friend, but I can't and won't act as though we're not divorced.
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But if I'm not yours to protect, why on earth did you send me that Podcast?
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sorry about everything. it sounds like you need a good cry to me, too.
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I'm sorry hon. Stress is never any fun, and lots of stress at once is even worse...I'm feeling it myself lately too :/
I know it must be hard to have all that shit going on with Fouad too. I'm having a hard time with Mike and I not seeing eye to eye on the stuff with my sister, and it's very frustrating to feel like the one person who should be your advocate and support is causing more stress for you.
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