It's not me. It's you!

[spockodile]

It struck me the other day that the "it's not you, it's me" style of breakup is highly effective. When someone declares that the core of the problems going on is only related to oneself, not rooted in the other person

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[wakatahonsate]

...Matt Withee will keep playing tennis with you even though you suck. He likes to feel like he's accomplishing something. Your entry reminded me of that.

[spockodile]

LOL

For some reason, that made me laugh a bunch.

Yeah, there are women who also are genuinely _bad_ at some games, or just naturally less competitive. I do not begrudge them this. They're just less fun when you're playing the game for the sake of the game.

Unless you're Matt Withee. :P

[katherines]

I agree with this last line. There are also people who honestly believe they are the source of relational trouble, but I think many use it as a tactic rather than genuine mistaken perception, although there are a few cases in which the statement might be true.

[tsunamisama]

I somewhat disagree about the veritable applicability. But that's a bit complicated, and I'd rather not go into it in this venue.

In this entry, you tended to focus on women as relates to INYIM. How do you see similar stuff applying to men? Same, or differently?