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[splodgenoodles]

Being nice to the people you like is hardly worth applauding. It's being decent to the people you don't like that matters.

Discuss with reference to world politics, criminal justice or organisational theory.

Comments

[dragonsally]

Kind of like

"I'm against the death penalty, oh, unless your're a terrorist (as defined by me)"

[quatrefoil]

Absolutely. It occurred to me a while ago that What's Wrong With the World (tm) is frequently just a case of a lack of good manners. The rest of it seems to be failure of the imagination - if you're nasty to someone there's an increased risk they'll be nasty back. The converse is frequently true.

[grandmasterkim]

I disagree wholeheartedly. I think being nice to people you like is a great thing and not being nice to them makes no sense at all. Treating people you don't like as though you like them is disingenious and often times manipulative (if I'm nice to them then maybe they'll do something for me, or if I'm nice to them then they won't see the knife going into their back

[escarpe]

I have to say that I agree with Grandmasterkim. Being nice to people you don't like requires no effort at all since it's unlikely you actually have an Archnemis the most likely place for you to meet your foes these days is at work. This is where it gets complicated. For the most part if I don't like you, you know about it I don't have the time nor the inclination to be two faced about it. However if you have been seriously evil to me then all bets are off why shouldn't I be duplicitus to you? Fortunatly for everyone this dosen't come up very often and for the most part I treat people how I find them plus I give them chances! I do however have a "three asshole strikes and your out" rule. Other people don't seem to be able to do this they say "but I have to work with them" I say that's a differnet thing. I think it's not being nice to people that's hard it's defending opinions that you yourself do not hold. Being fair and equatable to all people without letting your personal views colour your judgement about that person (whether it be

I thought

[erudito]

That was called good manners ...