Yeah. :-( Although I would disagree with `easiest way to bridge the gap'. It only works if your family wants you to be a part of it. (But I *would* say that, of course, and it doesn't negate your post one bit.)
Perhaps a better way to put it is "most likely way to bridge the gap". And when I say that, I don't just mean in terms of it being the most common way it's done, but I suspect it's intrinsically less complicated regardless.
I'm not doing a good job of explaining my point, and while I was writing I was thinking of how many people *don't* have so much contact with their families, and that's not even touching on families that have really seriously fucked up.
I no longer feel I can look to my family for anything much. It was my parents that held us together. I guess I'm thinking in terms of what it means to have kids (and what I assume are the most likely outcomes of parenthood) than how we feel about our families of origin.
Did I mention I had 6 hours sleep last night? Not enough for a splodge noodle.
Oh, you did, actually. I was just skittering around some of it - dealing with the realisation that having a family of my own is more than likely not going to happen, because of a variety of factors (the universe does so love overkill with me), and it's not an easy thing to cope with. Your point was well made.
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Yeah. :-( Although I would disagree with `easiest way to bridge the gap'. It only works if your family wants you to be a part of it. (But I *would* say that, of course, and it doesn't negate your post one bit.)
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Perhaps a better way to put it is "most likely way to bridge the gap". And when I say that, I don't just mean in terms of it being the most common way it's done, but I suspect it's intrinsically less complicated regardless.
I'm not doing a good job of explaining my point, and while I was writing I was thinking of how many people *don't* have so much contact with their families, and that's not even touching on families that have really seriously fucked up.
I no longer feel I can look to my family for anything much. It was my parents that held us together. I guess I'm thinking in terms of what it means to have kids (and what I assume are the most likely outcomes of parenthood) than how we feel about our families of origin.
Did I mention I had 6 hours sleep last night? Not enough for a splodge noodle.
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Oh, you did, actually. I was just skittering around some of it - dealing with the realisation that having a family of my own is more than likely not going to happen, because of a variety of factors (the universe does so love overkill with me), and it's not an easy thing to cope with. Your point was well made.
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Dogs are better for that. (sorry to sound cynical but been feeling a bit down lately about this very topic)
That said, I think you´re right for the most part.
:)
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