Down with the Sickness

[spectralbovine]

On Monday, I felt fine

Comments

[rowanceleste]

Feel better! *hugs

[spectralbovine]

It almost feels like dating someone I couldn't see myself marrying would be a waste of time at this point. And she probably won't meet the checklist.

[ashfae]

Don't start dating looking for someone you could marry, just look for someone you want to spend time with and leave it at that. I seriously didn't think I could marry Chris when I started dating him. I'm very glad I was wrong. =)

[rowanceleste]

No, I understand that, but the question is whether your Mom's checklist is also your own? If her religion and ethnicnity is important to you, then it makes sense to start going to temple or join the local Indian cultural association, but if those things aren't important to you, then you can be open to some pretty Japanese girl that is intelligent, funny, appreciates great TV shows and amine and thinks you're also smart, cute and funny. I just think it's important that you figure out your criteria, not adopt your Mom's because you're worried she'll never speak to you if she finds who you're dating 'unacceptable'.

[lembeau]

I've missed out on all the regular mating rituals during my development process. I don't know how to do any of it.

You and me both, babe. We're just going to flounder through it as elegant as that sounds.

You used to talk so nicely to me, what happened?

Hah, my mother is on about my tone all the time. We are such horrible, disrespectful children. Why didn't we become boozing pyros again? Because I can't imagine how that could be worse than how we already are. *eyeroll*

I had this whole thing where I was going to calmly quit the process instead of get all emotional like I always do

*HUGS* Yeah. You will but being sick and then the disappointment of her not not asking you didn't help. A friend of mine and I always joke about who has more guilt, Brown or Catholic, and I maintain that Brown wins hands down.

I hope you feel better soon, mentally and physically. *sends chicken soup and good chi*

[spectralbovine]

You and me both, babe. We're just going to flounder through it as elegant as that sounds.
Mars! Venus!

We are such horrible, disrespectful children.
If only we just bowed to their every whim, we would be angels.

*HUGS* Yeah. You will but being sick and then the disappointment of her not not asking you didn't help.
Why couldn't she just be my goddamn MOM? I WAS SICK. I WANTED HER TO MAKE ME FEEL BETTER. THE END.

I hope you feel better soon, mentally and physically. *sends chicken soup and good chi*
Thanks. I'm feeling better this morning.

Marital Multivariable Optimization 401

[tackdriver56]

First: I think you're doing the right thing, health-wise. Our parents generation reaches for the pills to solve all their problems, and while it makes the pill purveyors rich and contributes to full employment, it's not always best for the short term health of the individual or the long term health of humanity

Re: Marital Multivariable Optimization 401

[spectralbovine]

Air? Sunshine? Blindness? This seems like a lot of work.

Thanks for your input.

[electricmonk]

Eh, I think there are people who've been doing that stuff for years and still don't really know how. I think you'll learn. I think I'm kind of excited for you.

Feel better. Kick ass.

[spectralbovine]

I think I'm kind of excited for you.
OKCupid has not been that exciting. Stupid girls.

[electricmonk]

Yeah, I found a boy on there once, but he was kind of... well.
Hang in there. No one said it works out right away.

[ashfae]

The idea that there are regular mating rituals is a total, total lie. Really.

[spectralbovine]

Are you saying Hollywood has misrepresented reality?

[ashfae]

I know it's a stunning concept, but alas, this might be the case! *sob* I'll never date Colin Firth! Woe!

[equustel]

IAWTC!

My friends ask me for dating advice because I'm married and whatnot, but I have NO idea what to tell them. "Hang out and do geeky things together?" That is the grand total of my experience.