My broken branch of the family tree

[sparkindarkness]

This piece originally appeared at Womanist Musings where Renee has very generously allowed my random musings to appear on her excellent blogGenealogy is something of a familial obsession with my kin. The never ending quest to push the records as far as they can and fine every slight tiny detail about the lives of people you never met who died years

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[tarvae]

Family are those we love unconditionally and who love us with the same joy, genetics has nothing to do with it as far as I'm concerned.

Although I may be judging your blood relatives harshly due to my own decision not to let mine continue to harm me I cannot see any redeeming feature in their onging vile treatment of you and your husband.

*hugs*

[sparkindarkness]

Shared blood doesn't guarantee love or respect, sadly

[seryan]

I'm sorry, Sparky. You deserve a hell of a lot better.

[sparkindarkness]

Thank you

[theweaselking]

I think in your situation I might get joyously vindictive.

"Oh, hey, I noticed you're missing information about me! I'm so EXCITED about the project, I'd LOVE to participate, and this is a place I didn't know you were missing! Here's a photocopy of my marriage license, here's details about Beloved's family... what more do you need? How can I help?"

Then again, I probably would also have cut off the family completely ten years ago, having told them that since they feel like pretending I don't exist that I will return the favour, and that they are welcome to contact me if they ever grow up but not before then.

[sparkindarkness]

Oh I've done that before :) Problem is they're so very very very very hard to talk to and have the subtlty of a dropped piano.

Well the rift is there and it's growing and not only hgave I given up trying to close the rift, I'm not even sure I want to any more