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[sorrelchestnut]

Things, in no particular order:

-I just finished dinner that consisted of New England clam chowder that I snagged from work, and pretzels. Livin' the high life, baby.

-I've slowly been working my way through The Pervocracy, which is possibly my new favorite thing ever. Even though in a lot of ways I have very little in common with her-

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[sneaky_sena]

I have friends for intellectual and emotional stimulation, pets for cuddle time, and a vibrator for orgasms. I already have all I need.

Amen! Giving all that time to another person is maddening. I just want to say, "Look, you're great, but I have a very busy schedule full of me spending time alone and you just don't fit into it." Because I give up my alone time when I start to date and that just makes me cranky.

[sorrelchestnut]

Look, you're great, but I have a very busy schedule full of me spending time alone and you just don't fit into it."

Yes, that's it exactly! And it's not just the giving up of alone time, because I do that with friends all the time, it's the hovering unspoken expectation of togetherness that I can't deal with. It's not like "hey, sorry, just feel like chillin' at home tonight," and if it's bar night with the guys, who the hell cares? If it's a date, hoo boy, gotta have a better excuse than that.

Part of that's perception, I guess, but most of it is the overwhelming need to be selfish with my time and space. /ramble

[ralaja]

I completely understand your boy drama. However, I suppose it is where we differ that I am totally a one-on-one person and go CRAZY when I can't have it. I love spending my time with THAT person, though in my defense, they have to be really awesome to deserve my free time. I do need alone time, and go nutty when I spend TOO much time with the other person (and I do have drama of that kind to share with you when you have some time). But yes, I totally agree with you that friends, pets, and vibrators make life worth living. haha. <3

[sorrelchestnut]

Heh, yeah, I was talking to mom and she said pretty much the same thing, about being my exact opposite with this, and I get what you both mean. But that is why you are dating someone and I am single! Everyone gets their needs met differently. (That being said, drama? We good to skype Friday morning? Just let me know when and I'll do my best to be there.)

[ralaja]

Yes. Exactly. I'm sure things would be different if I were the kind of girl who'd been single by choice most of the time. Actually, I really look up to you for this very trait. :)

[sorrelchestnut]

I've been thinking about this, and it's something else Mom said to me- that she's kind of happy for me that I'm working this stuff out and being self-aware, but she's also sad for me too, in that there's a lot of kinds of happiness that I'm not going to be able to enjoy. And I think she's got a good point, and I like to think that I am, really, capable of that kind of relationship, or at least will be someday. But I'm also glad that I'm not trying to force myself into doing something I don't, actually, want to do, just because I think I should. If any of that makes any sense?