and the fishes in the sea.

[somejauntypolka]

There is a history of trauma abuse in my family that spans generations. This legacy finds my mother entering her crone years not in wisdom and grace but in mortal combat with mental illness. This truth has touched my father and myself as well - both of us unwillingly caught in the periphery of the blast. As a result, contact with my biological

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[thebrucie]

Family are the people who love and care for you. These people are relations, and you owe them nothing more than that acknowledgment. If you are curious to find out what they're like, by all means contact them, you may discover a new source of love and support. But if it's nothing but grief and poison, you have no obligation to continue contact.

[neonknight69]

I agree.

[somejauntypolka]

I know I know. I learned that from Quixote... Relations and family are really something different. Contact is just that, contact. If I don't want it I can stop it.

[sumcheekymonkey]

Good reply from thebrucie. Who knows? Perhaps this time around the connection can be healing but only make the connection if you want.

If it is your cousins and they had nothing to do with unhappiness from the past, perhaps there can be some shared camaraderie.

Facebook is weird for people popping out of nowhere to make contact - hold fast to your ideals chiquita.

ps - did you shake it good yesterday?

[somejauntypolka]

There is some unhappy cousin stuff..but really it's the potential for healing I'm thinking of...