Making bisexuality boring since 1992

[slightlyfoxed]

It was Bisexual Visibility Day last week, and I posted this, then took it dow, fearing it was a bit rainbow-coloured-wholemeal-snowflake. But people said it wasn't as bad as that, so I'm putting it back up.I'm interested in the way bisexuality gets used a lot as a complicating factor to show when Things are too rigid. It crops up in discussions of

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[plumsbitch]

This is really great. Have been speaking with someone else alot recently about how dominant narratives of bi from within and without assume fluidity to an extent that's not relevant to hir, and hir history sounds v.v.similar to yours.

Would you be up for having this anonymously stuck into an lgbt newsletter on bi and mental health? Need to get stuff to ed. by tomorrow pm latest.

Entirely fine if no, would just be fab to include as so far most of the ukbivoxpops are on the fluidity line, so would be good to have something else to put in. And if you wanted to say a couple of sentences about bi and mental health, that'd be marvellous also?

As I say, entirely fine to say 'no thanks' to all of this.

Cx

[slightlyfoxed]

Sorry, still ill and can't focus brain to edit, so will have to decline. Thanks for the thought, though.

[plumsbitch]

no worries. Is a fab bit of writng, and I thorougly enjoyed reading it.

[xanna]

Thank you for reposting this. It's a lot more me than other bi testimonies I read last week, so was good to read. *smile*

[softfruit]

Read, read.

I like to joke and call myself a Kinsey 5.99, but my place in those things has stayed at a five or so for a decade and a half. There's fluidity in my sexuality, sure, but not about gender: about how sexually interested or indifferent I am, what kinds of things I want to get up to, different shapes of relationship. I think I've rambled about this elsewhere recently :)

[janinazew]

I understand this- actually I find it so rigid that it's completely failed to define my identity. I never think about my sexuality at all (and I don't think about anyone else's either) and that's because by my very early 20s I wanted to be in a relationship with one person. My sexuality became about being with a person rather than about attraction. In terms of your action you can be straight but in terms of attraction you can be bisexual- well I've never cared to define it from that point of contradiction because it's not been important to me but I suppose that is part of the notion that bisexuality is fluid. It doesn't seem fluid from my perspective unless most sexuality is static (which is impossible unless you have sex with one person in the same way for your entire life which I suppose some people do).

[janinazew]

(If you're a wholemeal snowflake than I must be a sliced loaf from Tesco)