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sjazzmreow

An open letter to the facebook using public:

May 15, 2009 23:26

Look. If I've never met you, then we probably aren't friends, and so I'm not going to accept your friend request. Especially if you don't even have the courtesy to introduce yourself. Even if we have mutual friends, it's not going to happen. If you can't be arsed to say how you know me and why you think I should friend a complete stranger, then ( Read more... )

rant, grr, rl stuff

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3771 May 15 2009, 14:08:58 UTC

I don't have facebook because I want to meet new people, I have it for the sake of the people I already know, and you going through the profiles of people who bare no connection to you whatsoever, and who don't even share many interests with you, is freaking creepy.

this kills me all the time - people using facebook as a social networking site. i mean, sure, that's the idea, but it's like... i don't want to meet new people through facebook! if i've met them at a party then add them, i'd like to get to know them, so it's good like that. but i don't want to meet people through a website that has all my details on it, that's just friggin' weird

sjazzmreow May 18 2009, 13:10:12 UTC

EXACTLY. There are plenty of sites for meeting strangers, facebook isn't one of them. Gaaah!

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sjazzmreow May 18 2009, 13:29:05 UTC

See, this is sort of why I hate the internet age. There seem to be people out there that think being "friends" on facebook or something similar is equivalent to being friends in real life. Unless you've actually engaged in positive relations with someone (which can happen online, but sitting idle on someone's friends list - which you're possibly only on in the first place because you might have met briefly that one time - probably isn't the best way), you can't really be surprised that they don't feel that strongly for you.

On the bright side though, if you wanted to just outright tell this guy what an arse you think he is and why you defriended him (though I'd recommend ignoring him or just saying something about wanting to keep your list small and for close friends and people you see on a regular basis), facebook does provide a convienient messaging feature, so you can avoid any of that nasty face-to-face guilt!! :D The online stalking, spamming, and trashtalking that may occur as a result of said message, however, is entirely ( ... )

glitterfairy25 May 18 2009, 14:00:21 UTC

Ahh, you see, I use face to stalk to be nosy with all the people I went to school with. Just seeing how they're getting on, who's still going out with who, who's come out, who's been travelling... all that stuff. As long as I can rememeber them, I'll friend them, and accept friends back. And I'm "friends" with all sorts of people too: my dancing teacher, my english teacher, my cousins, my friend's housemates.... heck, even my mum. One guy friended me 'cause he'd met me for ten minutes while he was talking to one of his friends I was hanging out with!

I guess facebook is just a different thing for different people, eh?

Also, *WAVES* just because.

sjazzmreow May 18 2009, 14:47:07 UTC

No no, actually all of those sorts of connections are exactly what I do approve of using facebook for! I have a whole bunch of facebook friends that I've only met once, hardly know, am indifferent towards, or haven't seen in years, and most of my family is on it (seriously, there are so many people on my FB friends list that share my surname it's ridiculous. And I've learnt so much about them that way! Apparently, one of my cousins-in-law is a bisexual pagan who is studying psych (my subject) through distance education, AND she can and does spell well and has obscure taste in movies and TV. I knew none of this ( ... )

glitterfairy25 May 22 2009, 15:07:42 UTC

That's alright then :P I tend to add anyone who I want to see what's going on in their lives. My mum and dad and sister are on it, much to my concern. So many incriminating pictures! :S It's always funny when you see what someone's like now compared to how you saw them last and sometimes it's so difficult to stop yourself from going "oh my god!"

Just as a side note, man PSYCHOLOGY is awesome. Yay for Psych! \o/

"opposite of friends to", lol. There are some people that I'm friends with on there that I've never really spoken to. We were in the same academic year for at least 6 years though, so there's something there, I guess. The general mood at school was just that everyone friended everyone else. Even the teachers :S

IMO, sometimes there aren't enough people who say GET OFF MY LAWN. That said, my housemates do that with some of the local kids and it's so serious.
In conclusion: I really don't know what my point was.