Men Suck!

[sistahjustice]

I just spent the last 10 minutes writing in my journal, just to have it erase itself, so I will do this one more time. Lately I feel like I am not necessary to the men in my life, both my best friend and my fiancee' are taking me for granted, and quite frankly I am tired of it, this is probably not the forum to bring this up but I need to vent.

Comments

[kalariah]

Not to downplay men, but in general they don't know how to properly express themselves. In their minds everything is clear, when in reality they haven't explained a thing. I'm thinking they probably don't realize how hurtful they're being when they take you for granted. That most likely doesn't make it feel any better, but at least it's probably not deliberate.

I wish I knew something wonderful and inspiring to tell you, but I've been getting those same feelings lately, so I don't know what to say. But you have all my support in getting the recognition you deserve, and if you ever need to talk, I'm open for that.

men

[sistahjustice]

thanks for the input and being there to hear me out, I hope that the people that take you for granted come to their senses, and realize what a jewel they have. I hope all goes well with you and the same goes for you, if you ever need an ear to hear you out, give me a buzz, the door is always open.

[emstars]

to be honest, i don't know what to say.. men are men.. the love in my life.. is hard enough to attempt to comprehend, but i think if we just.. stick together.. we'll make it thru.. come what may.. men are obviously different.. they don't think as we do.. as women.. we are emotional & men are more.. fact-based.. if they see a problem.. they think "hmm, how can i fix this? or how long can this go w/o needing to fix it?" & women think "hmm, how does this make me feel?" so.. 2 quite different outlooks.. w/ similiar instances.. but either way, i love u.. & if they can't see how amazing u are, then it is their loss.. u deserve the best there is.. so.. there u have it..
<3 you shay..
..em

men

[sistahjustice]

thanks em, I love you too.

[victicious]

I am a man, but i must say I completely do not understand the way other men think. I'm sorry you're having a hard time with the people dearest to you Shay.. i don't know you very well, but i can tell you this - your feelings are completely valid and although your afraid they wont understand, you owe it to yourself and to them to let them know how they're making you feel (and it might be a good idea to have a plan to suggest on how they might modify they're behavior, some guys are just dull when it comes to being sensitive to a girl's feelings) Again, i don't know them, or you, really at all! But i hope this helps in some way. I hope we end up hanging out some time! I want to hang out with you guys, but i live in Portland and dont drive, so =( .. it'll happen one of these days. -Vic

men

[sistahjustice]

thank you for your words of wisdom, I guess I am just a little gun shy when I comes to talking to certain people about stuff that makes me feel bad, it wouldn't be the first time with said individuals, that they have let me down when it came to telling them the things that they were doing that were hurting me. But I guess at some point I will have to bite the bullet and just say it. Unfortunately, both of them are giving me the silent treatment. Anyhoo, if you want to hang out let me or one of the other usual suspect know and we will find a way to get you out here to the boonies. May God bless you and keep you.

Re: men

[victicious]

Man, that's harsh. I'm sorry. I hope they stop being dumb soon. I will call youguys some time, i'd really like to hang out

[rainfire_x]

*hug*
I love you Shay!

[eat_it_vidboi]

speaking as one of the "silent, dumb (repetetive?) men".. has it ever occured to you that you see us eeeevery day and that just once in a while we (or maybe this is just me) need a little time to collapse within ourselves? or even- just maybe- we've run out of interesting things to say? or a million other things? i really dont understand how you can possibly think that just because we dont hover about, lips a-blaze with conversation 24/7 you can work your mind to think you are in some way less valuable to us as a friend- (or in sean's case- more?)

in any case, you know what i'm going through right now.. and as my best friend-you know better than anyone what is going on in my head- and how i deal with it.. so just give us both a break and relax. ok? ok!