Ten Years

[silver_tiamat]

This is a post inspired by all of my friends who have recently spoken about their fears and insecurities regarding their futures, their natures, and their beliefs

Comments

[millinakoa]

This is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you. =) Now I need to experiment and have fun with my life.

[silver_tiamat]

I thought it might be. Just try to keep it in mind, and close to your heart. You aren't done yet, Miss Miwee. And someday, all this, will make a really great story.

[movie_dancer]

Wow. Thank you for reminding me that it's ok to figure out what I want to do before going out there and doing it. I get so much pressure from people around me, namely my parents, that I forget that not everyone has it all figured out just yet and that, that is ok. =D So yay for you!! Thanks!

[silver_tiamat]

Yes! It's okay to stand back and figure it out...and it's okay to throw plans to the wind and just follow an idea! Both are totally okay. The important thing is to not feel like either decision is going to determine the rest of your life.

But, no one has it all figured out, and that's fine. Embracing the fact that none of us know what will happen, or when we'll do That Big Thing That Will Change Everything, is what will allow you embrace the power to change your life.

Love you babe! <3

[miss_ljv]

Aww, I've missed this kind of post! :) What's really funny is I've JUST been thinking, "Maybe I shouldn't go for the bigger job and just stay here, because it would give me more credibility at staying at a job more than 5 minutes, and I want to move out of state so badly and would feel less guilty leaving here!" XD

I always marvel at how rushed and pressured we feel, and that we seem to think our lives are ending, when most of us have a thick chunk of live left to live. You're so right, so much happens in 5 or 10 years. I was just telling Steve yesterday that we haven't even been dating 2 years yet, but it feels like a very long time (also maybe because we've lived together over a year now). We've got so much time!

Love love loved this post <3

[silver_tiamat]

Yeah, I can't be philosophical ALL the time, but sometimes I do like to bust out my thinking cap. =) But, I felt like it would be especially important to write this down now, since I really felt like a lot of us have been feeling the same way; we've all been feeling that pressure to DO something, and pretend like 30 years are just going to fly by in an instant. Like I pointed out above, in so many ways, we're only 10 years old. 2 years is a long time to a 10 year old. And another 10 years is almost impossible to contemplate

[miss_ljv]

...we have time to figure things out, and the LUXURY of letting some years go by where we DON'T know what we want to do with the "rest" of our life.

This yes! Well said! We need to remember that, for sure.

[silver_tiamat]

It's really hard to remember when your mom keeps calling you every few days to ask "What are you doing?" and she doesn't mean, "What are the latest books you're reading? Video games you're playing? Webcomics you're enjoying? Walks you've had?" She means: "What are you doing to get your life together into the Normal Way of things--job, house, kids?"

[outlier1985]

I think in my case, it's more about how all my life, I had teachers, relatives, even other students gushing to me about how smart they felt I was, and how they were 'certain' I'd go places and do things, and... I feel like if I'm NOT, then how smart can I really be? And I feel like I'm failing all of them. ;_;

I realize that's an absurd way to think, but I just can't help it sometimes.

And I think another problem I have is... I find it hard to commit or just jump into something that I'm not sure will be successful. Like if there's an equal chance of amazing success or crushing failure, I tend to just wanna stay home instead. :( And it's like you said... while I may SAY there's nothing I want, at the same time I've never been out there to try anything. All I need to do is figure out how to DO that. o.o

BUT... my random weirdness aside, thanks for this. Something like this just what I need to hear sometimes. >X3

[silver_tiamat]

It's something we ALL need to hear sometimes. I had those same parents/teachers/counselors/people telling me how I'm so wonderfully talented, and bright, and amazing...and yet, here I am, unemployed for yet another year. If I'm so "great" then why am I not doing something Great

[miss_ljv]

I love you soooo much right now :D

[silver_tiamat]

Ahh, people used to believed I'd turn into a lawyer as well. I do enjoy arguing, and I can argue both sides to any debate. I'm also very charismatic, intimidating, and convincing when I'm in the right head space. So, in many ways, I'd make a great lawyer. But, the thing that always stopped me, and the thing that I always had to bring up when people suggested it, was that lawyers aren't allowed to speak the TRUTH. They can't find the truth, or advocate the truth, or anything. They can only defend their client. If anything at all, I'd be a detective...except I don't have any of THOSE necessary skills. XD

[x0brokenglass0x]

Chib, I actually started tearing up when I read this. Thank you for reminding those of us who have forgotten to live by trying too hard to live up to expectations. I am going to favorite this post as a reminder to myself as soon as I get back to my own computer.
<3

[silver_tiamat]

Thanks for reading it. I hoped that in some small way, it's helped. I think it's something we've all needed to hear lately. <3333