Comments | silver_paired: degredation is the finest form of flattery- wait what

silver_paired

degredation is the finest form of flattery- wait what

Jul 10, 2010 12:11

So I've been going out walking and biking a lot more, going to our (very small town's) downtown and biking to our library and such. I like getting the exercise, I like getting the books, everything is all good. Except what's kind of a niggling annoyance is that every time I go out at least one guy decides "durr hurr I am going to beep at you or ( Read more... )

i just have a lot of feelings okay, rant, rl issues

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lilpocketninja July 10 2010, 17:17:22 UTC

uuughhhh

I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I'm sorry ANYBODY has to deal with that. It might be hard to understand it if you've never had that cold, creepy feeling of being objectified by a complete stranger, but that's not an excuse to ignore it or dismiss it. /smacks men. collectively.

silver_paired July 10 2010, 17:29:24 UTC

YES. That is pretty much it exactly. I know that it's a difficult thing to "get" for people who haven't experienced it; they can sort of have a general idea, or they have reactions like "oh whatev whatev chill out." But if I'm clearly upset about it then I really don't feel like being invalidated. It helps NO ONE.

/somewhere, all men have an inexplicable, sharp pain on their faces and they have no. idea. why.

strawberispring July 10 2010, 17:18:27 UTC

Thank you for this! My friend are all "Oh, you're lucky that people look at you!" and I'm like, "How? It's disconcerting and sometimes downright creepy." Seriously. I'm walking down the street and people are offering to give me a ride and inviting me into their cars. That is NOT okay and these aren't like "want some candy little girl?" guys - well, hey, they could be but they looked normal enough - and they think it's okay to call out like this to a stranger who happens to like wearing tank tops.

Uh...sorry. Mini-rant. > >

silver_paired July 10 2010, 17:32:26 UTC

This, this, this, this, this. I actually had a woman who I genuinely like and respect reply to me when I word-vomited on my Facebook about this saying "ohhh when you are older you'll miss it, you are young and beautiful so ~appreciate it~" ...nnnnnnno. Gonna take a pass on that.

strawberispring July 10 2010, 19:20:41 UTC

I'll appreciate someone telling me I'm cute or pretty but I don't want someone all "HAY BBY GET IN MY CAR!"

slanted_edges July 11 2010, 18:32:07 UTC

I'd say that in retribution, a mass uprising of women should start wolf-whistling and cat-calling at men -- you know, let's see how they like it -- except I have a suspicion that most men would only get an ego-boost from it. Uuugh. THEY TRULY ARE A DIFFERENT SPECIES SOMETIMES.

If you had the gumption to do it, automatically flipping off anyone who does that would be so marvelous, but that takes hella lot of guts.

Sorry I can't give any constructive advice, but goddamn I will commiserate with you.

silver_paired July 12 2010, 05:33:00 UTC

I've had that exact same train of thought, to be honest. Like OH MAN LET'S SEE HOW THEY LIKE IT- oh damn, they probably would.

I mostly just make disgusted faces at them, but I have flipped men off on occasion. Although I remember two years ago, I had this twenty-something toolbox come up to me at a festival thing in our neighborhood and go, "Hey, baby, how you doing?" and I went, "I'm doing sixteen years old is how I'm doing. Piss off." The look on his face was just magical.