[lit, movies, psych/anthro] More realistic fictional depictions of polyamory?
A lot of people who identify as polyamorous have cited reading fictional depictions of polyamory as crucial to them. Heinlein is frequently mentioned, for instance.
I'm not enormously well-read in that corpus, though I have read a bit of Heinlein, including Moon is a Harsh Mistress and Friday.
The limited poly-positive fiction I'm aware of, all the poly people just happen to all be coincidentally okay with everything any other one of them proposes, a la "Do you mind if I sleep with your husband?" "Not at all!" I can think of no examples of depictions of working through jealousy, negotiating limits, asserting needs, etc. and all the other hard communications work that real-world poly people do.
Most troubling, I can think of no fictional depictions of someone in a poly system saying, "No, that specific thing, I'm not cool with it," and other characters respecting that.
Can anybody cite such a work, in any medium, which has a positive depiction of polyamory and in which any of that stuff is depicted?
I'm not enormously well-read in that corpus, though I have read a bit of Heinlein, including Moon is a Harsh Mistress and Friday.
The limited poly-positive fiction I'm aware of, all the poly people just happen to all be coincidentally okay with everything any other one of them proposes, a la "Do you mind if I sleep with your husband?" "Not at all!" I can think of no examples of depictions of working through jealousy, negotiating limits, asserting needs, etc. and all the other hard communications work that real-world poly people do.
Most troubling, I can think of no fictional depictions of someone in a poly system saying, "No, that specific thing, I'm not cool with it," and other characters respecting that.
Can anybody cite such a work, in any medium, which has a positive depiction of polyamory and in which any of that stuff is depicted?