Insecurity is a triple edged sword. It has the traditional double sharp edges of any sword that cuts whichever way you slice, but it also wounds the hand that holds it
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You are just as lovable as all the other cuttlefish in the sea! (This is what I tell myself when I'm feeling worthless.) And you ARE just as lovable as all the other cuttlefish! Really! Also you are super pretty, so thats a bonus
Ah yes. Tis a good mantra. Really, I'm pretty ? I don't think any of us know how we really look. I see a manly nose and face structure when I look in the mirror and mostly these days I see all the personality traits I want to change, but am still working on...
But sometimes, there are instances of differential/preferential treatment that pile up and pile up and pile up until the conclusion is inescapable, the knowledge (not a feeling) is sometimes held for many years. However... it's better NOT to express it at all, as it only opens up a can of worms.
Every relationship is unequal. One is doomed to care more for some people, than they care for you. One MUST accept the level of affection as it is, and NOT feel the need to compare. Difficult thing to learn!
Preferential treatment implies a comparison of some kind. Any comparison is classic insecurity - nothing more, nothing less. Comparisons are only in one's own mind, almost never in anyone else's.
There are also instances where one does not notice one's own actions because they are too busy being insecure. Enough said on this medium.
I have to simply walk away. I don't care for worms, canned or not. Stabbing again and again is simply cruel.
Don't want to creep you out with an anon comment, but can I tell you how much i love your journal? Again, this was exactly what I needed today. Literally, this morning, I typed into google "how to deal with an insecure friend", and didn't find much - just some shallow, generic advise. Then I saw this on your blog - really helped me think through my own predicament.
Very glad to hear it. As I said below, life's lessons are hard and it's great to be able to get the benefit of other people's learnings. I enjoy blogs for the same reason.
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Thank you for posting this.
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(This is what I tell myself when I'm feeling worthless.)
And you ARE just as lovable as all the other cuttlefish! Really!
Also you are super pretty, so thats a bonus
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I think you are taking the right approach, but I believe that for most of us it takes a humongous amount of practice. That has certainly been my case.
When insecure mixes with depression and /or obsession, the three edges are much sharper, I believe.
Peace!
Pekky.
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But sometimes, there are instances of differential/preferential treatment that pile up and pile up and pile up until the conclusion is inescapable, the knowledge (not a feeling) is sometimes held for many years. However... it's better NOT to express it at all, as it only opens up a can of worms.
Every relationship is unequal. One is doomed to care more for some people, than they care for you. One MUST accept the level of affection as it is, and NOT feel the need to compare. Difficult thing to learn!
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There are also instances where one does not notice one's own actions because they are too busy being insecure. Enough said on this medium.
I have to simply walk away. I don't care for worms, canned or not. Stabbing again and again is simply cruel.
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