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Feb 23, 2009 15:19

When you're friends with someone, it's normal to want to take care of them, and feed them, and make sure they're healthy, and make sure they grow to become good adults, even if that means scolding them sometimes, right? Well, it's not like I'm so stupid I don't realize that that's some overlap with "family" and "parents" in doing that, but even so ( Read more... )

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rider_in_chains February 23 2009, 21:15:57 UTC

Hnn...

shockinglycool February 23 2009, 21:18:05 UTC

I guess in some ways, it's a hard question.

rider_in_chains February 23 2009, 23:17:53 UTC

No... it just make me think of someone...

shockinglycool February 24 2009, 00:12:11 UTC

...Oh?

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7th_warrant February 23 2009, 21:17:41 UTC

Hmm... an excellent question.

shockinglycool February 23 2009, 21:18:38 UTC

You're another one of those people with a lot of relatives. What's your take?

7th_warrant February 23 2009, 21:19:42 UTC

I have no relatives by blood here. The family simply grew because we ended up filling those roles missing in our own lives. Shinji became my brother because that is what we had to be for each other. The same goes for all of my family.

shockinglycool February 23 2009, 21:25:23 UTC

"What we had to be...?"

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angelic_lawyer February 23 2009, 21:37:16 UTC

I would say that it's something as simple as feelings. There's a difference between the feelings family have, and the feelings friends have.

shockinglycool February 23 2009, 21:41:21 UTC

So everyone is saying, but when they try and tell me how, I keep going "but I don't see that."

angelic_lawyer February 23 2009, 21:45:45 UTC

How you feel about your friends, and how you feel about your family is different. When you realise that you feel the same way about that person as you do your family, they've become like family for you. It's probably something that 'just' occurs to you.

shockinglycool February 23 2009, 21:47:19 UTC

Once again, I know exactly what you're saying, but I don't know how to apply it.

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church_man February 23 2009, 21:43:49 UTC

That sounds like something that's different for everyone.

shockinglycool February 23 2009, 21:46:29 UTC

So what's your take?

church_man February 23 2009, 22:02:58 UTC

Family and friends... hn. It's not an easy distinction to describe, I guess. But it's different.

shockinglycool February 23 2009, 22:04:23 UTC

I agree. How would you define the difference, though?

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[text] msterbrighteyes February 23 2009, 22:28:35 UTC

Maybe people call friends "family" because "friend" is too broad.

[text] shockinglycool February 23 2009, 22:29:54 UTC

Do you think that's right?

[text] msterbrighteyes February 23 2009, 22:38:05 UTC

People say "friend" for anything between "that guy I talk to at the bar" and "the childhood friend who knows me better than anyone else". Some people toss it around like it's nothing. [...] "Family" has an ideal attached.

[text] shockinglycool February 23 2009, 22:39:33 UTC

That's a smart point.

In your opinion, what's the ideal?

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