A) I'd like to point out I never encouraged you to fight for his sorry ass.
B) Yes, I'm deprecating him for the irony of it. Enjoy. Laugh, dammit. Har har har.
C) I think relationship worth is a very temporal thing-- not fighting for something that is no longer there doesn't negate the times it was incredibly worth it. Things just change and eventually no longer serve you. The worth lies in accepting what all this bullshit will teach you in the end anyways. But as I said before... I think. I mean, really, what do I know?
D) Never underestimate the healing power of the grieving process and all that comes with it--the crying, the sadness, the advice, the anger, the revolutions of acceptance, crying, sadness, advice, anger, etc.
E) Own your pain!! OWN IT LIKE A BITCH!! And great realizations. Yay.
You did, actually, encourage me to fight for him. I believe our exchange went "I don't even know why I bother," and then you said, "Don't lose him because of her. I think Matt is worth it, and I think you two are good together."
As a general thought, I wonder if it doesn't get easier with each breakup, albeit tempered by the significance of the individual relationship. In a sense it gives me some hope, seeing how new and significant relationships continue to emerge, that we won't be able to turn away from the waves of opportunity for growth to become more ourselves, that the universe has much in store for an honest heart.
I've only had one significant relationship thus far and met up with my ex this weekend, then other meals with other long-not-having-seen mutual friends. It was really nice to talk to friends who straightforwardly wanted to check in on how I was feeling without judgment.
I got my own posting to do too. More soon! And keep writing.
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B) Yes, I'm deprecating him for the irony of it. Enjoy. Laugh, dammit. Har har har.
C) I think relationship worth is a very temporal thing-- not fighting for something that is no longer there doesn't negate the times it was incredibly worth it. Things just change and eventually no longer serve you. The worth lies in accepting what all this bullshit will teach you in the end anyways. But as I said before... I think. I mean, really, what do I know?
D) Never underestimate the healing power of the grieving process and all that comes with it--the crying, the sadness, the advice, the anger, the revolutions of acceptance, crying, sadness, advice, anger, etc.
E) Own your pain!! OWN IT LIKE A BITCH!! And great realizations. Yay.
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I just wanted to say I think I know how you feel.
As a general thought, I wonder if it doesn't get easier with each breakup, albeit tempered by the significance of the individual relationship. In a sense it gives me some hope, seeing how new and significant relationships continue to emerge, that we won't be able to turn away from the waves of opportunity for growth to become more ourselves, that the universe has much in store for an honest heart.
I've only had one significant relationship thus far and met up with my ex this weekend, then other meals with other long-not-having-seen mutual friends. It was really nice to talk to friends who straightforwardly wanted to check in on how I was feeling without judgment.
I got my own posting to do too. More soon! And keep writing.
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