Settlements & Howrses.

[shirozora]

I suppose it's time to be frank about the part of my life that's been encroaching on all other areas of it

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Part 1

[metaallu]

It's late and I was going to go to bed, but then I read this, so I apologize if this lacks a certain degree of cohesiveness, or if I completely lose coherency at any point

Part 2

[metaallu]

It’s really easy to forget that our parents are human, that they’re afraid to mess up and they have and they do and they will, and it’s so easy to be stressed and use their advantages where they can; it’s so easy to forget the power they hold in their hands because they just see themselves as who they have always been in their own eyes, and not as who you see them

[brightdreamer]

First of all, from a practical standpoint, your mom needs to get herself a lawyer. Having gone through a divorce myself, I can tell you that your father absolutely has no leg to stand on as far as not paying support. If your mom physically cannot work, he WILL have to pay support for a certain number of years. Period, end of story. (I got paid a pretty hefty amount simply based on the fact that my anticipated income was significantly less than my ex's.) If they cannot come to an agreement on that between them, they need to see a lawyer who will work out the details. Lucky for me and my ex we were able to both use one lawyer (which was cheaper) and come to an amiable agreement, but if your dad's being a dick, your mom needs to get her own advocate. It will cost more initially but if she's going to be paid a settlement and spousal support over the next few years it will be worth it. That's my $.02 of real-world practical advice