Comments | shaynabelle: I told you to do that

shaynabelle

I told you to do that

Apr 28, 2011 21:14

"Oh you shouldn't do that, you're teaching your kiddo that you're his playmate, not his mom." Unsolicited advice from a stranger when he heard I play legos with Keaton. I'm confused, though. Why can't I be both his playmate and his mom?
( rant )

daily, parenting, 2.5 years old, *, anxiety, thoughts, work, keats, keaton

Comments 9

mhaithaca April 29 2011, 04:17:53 UTC

Of course you can be Keaton's playmate and his mom! Anything these busybodies have against your parenting style is their problem, not yours.

shaynabelle April 30 2011, 12:03:00 UTC

I totally agree. Thanks, Mark! :)

sheilagh April 29 2011, 05:53:11 UTC

he'll be better adjusted as a teenager. I need to introduce you to Laura and have you indirectly observe her awesome *friendship* (with firm parenting limits and heaping gobs of love) with her teenagers.

What veggies does he eat? which ones does he prefer raw? cooked?

shaynabelle April 30 2011, 12:05:00 UTC

Yes, exactly, friendship and parenting seem complimentary in my mind, not mutually exclusive.

He loves broccoli (cooked or raw), cucumbers, asparagas. The bigger problem is that I don't cook, so there are few veggies available. We eat lots of PB&Js and cereal lately. I made quiche with spinach and kale and he loved it. he'll chew on a carrot for awhile, too. It's me, though, who's the problem. I can't seem to make myself cook lately. If I did, I'm sure K would eat better. Cheese and crackers and fruit for dinner is frequent, too!

sheilagh April 30 2011, 14:16:14 UTC

do yo have an electric steamer, yet? surely I've foisted one on you? I have a spare... i collect them from goodwills to share with others ;)

dump a bag of baby carrots in, add water & turn on, walk away. laaaazy good cooking!

pasketti April 30 2011, 02:25:26 UTC

What I like is when I get kid advice from people that don't have kids themselves.

shaynabelle April 30 2011, 12:05:12 UTC

Ha! EXACTLY! What the hell is up with that?

summernot April 30 2011, 07:53:15 UTC

Whoever told you that really misinterpreted that whole "you should be his mom, not his friend" deal. That's referring to discipline, not to play.

And yes. Every family has a different way they roll -- and different bumps along the way.

And you have a wonderful style that is all you and is beautiful.

I figure if crackheads can have 7 kids, we can somehow manage more than one. At least that's what I tell myself.

shaynabelle April 30 2011, 12:06:03 UTC

Ha, yes, we can totally do it. :) I know, sometimes I step back and realize that all this is petty quibbling and the things I'm worried about are so small in the big picture. Ultimately our kids will be well nourished and loved and that's what matters.