Ah... yes... a new member understands. :) I have a friend who said, after having his first child, "I get it. I finally get it." He said that he spent years politely indulging the parents around him as they gushed about anything and everything having to do with their kids. He'd smile, nod, absorb about a tenth of what they were saying, and then encourage the conversation to move in a different direction. Then, he had a kid. And that's all he could say - "I get it. I finally get it."
I've never been around new parents, so I haven't seen this level of absorption. It's probably unhealthy. My friend Chrysta has two little ones but never went on about them more than the perfect amount. I was no prepared for this!
Like, seriously, I want to quit my job ALREADY so I don't have to ever be parted from this boy. I want to cancel all plans for the rest of my life just to sit with him. This is bad. I have to learn to chill before he arrives or I will probably be a horrid mother!
i secretly think about my kids nearly constantly. we're generally careful to not let that leak out, though.
i joke--i am always thinking of margaret and maddie, but we still have a ton of other passions, though i'm pretty sure we lost friends when we had margaret, who otherwise were pretty anti-kid.
Dude, I totally understand! Now I do, too, and mine's only half-formed! You guys seem to have wonderful balance of kid + adult life. It doesn't feel like two separate things, even, with you, just one big nice world. If that makes sense.
I wonder about that, which friends will kinda fade away once we have a kid, and which friends we'll become closer to. I'm already feeling a gap between me and a couple gal-pals which has surprised me, but I guess it makes sense.
I like all of those names, though I admit to being partial to Samson. I'd have put that on our list, except that I picture a rather muscular, tough- yet tender-hearted looking guy like Athen or Ali, and J. and I are almost guaranteed NOT to produce a child like that. ;-) You and Ali will have a great time arguing over the perfect name
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hehe, I think that's why I like Samson, I think we're almost definitely going to produce a large-built boy with a tender-heart and I think it fits. But the middle name is Davis and we don't want Sammy Davis, so I think it may be out. OY! This is HARD!
Thank you. It feels unhealthy to me when I'm *not* thinking about him or doing something to increase his well-being. Yesterday I was at work for 10 hours straight and I hadn't brought snacks cause I was expecting a light day and I wasn't drinking enough water and it all just felt totally WRONG. I should have been sitting in a hammock reading aloud to him and relaxing and snacking on healthy foods. at least, in my head! Maybe later.
hehe, I think I may have to just hide away for the first few months so I don't overexpose my friends to my obsession, but after that I bet I'll be ready to rejoin the world. :) in small doses!
Soooo you're pretty much due immediately and I'm thinking about you constantly. I can't wait to hear how it goes and how the new one is!!
hehe that's what Ali said at the sonogram, "look! he's jabbing! his arms are in sparring position!" hehe.
YES, I think that's true. It's not that the baby changes everything and you're left longing for the old days, it's that alla sudden you don't care about things you used to.
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Ah... yes... a new member understands. :)
I have a friend who said, after having his first child, "I get it. I finally get it." He said that he spent years politely indulging the parents around him as they gushed about anything and everything having to do with their kids. He'd smile, nod, absorb about a tenth of what they were saying, and then encourage the conversation to move in a different direction.
Then, he had a kid. And that's all he could say - "I get it. I finally get it."
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Like, seriously, I want to quit my job ALREADY so I don't have to ever be parted from this boy. I want to cancel all plans for the rest of my life just to sit with him. This is bad. I have to learn to chill before he arrives or I will probably be a horrid mother!
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i joke--i am always thinking of margaret and maddie, but we still have a ton of other passions, though i'm pretty sure we lost friends when we had margaret, who otherwise were pretty anti-kid.
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I wonder about that, which friends will kinda fade away once we have a kid, and which friends we'll become closer to. I'm already feeling a gap between me and a couple gal-pals which has surprised me, but I guess it makes sense.
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4am phone calls. OOF!
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I KNOW. It's nuts, the call situation at our house lately.
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Thank you. It feels unhealthy to me when I'm *not* thinking about him or doing something to increase his well-being. Yesterday I was at work for 10 hours straight and I hadn't brought snacks cause I was expecting a light day and I wasn't drinking enough water and it all just felt totally WRONG. I should have been sitting in a hammock reading aloud to him and relaxing and snacking on healthy foods. at least, in my head! Maybe later.
hehe, I think I may have to just hide away for the first few months so I don't overexpose my friends to my obsession, but after that I bet I'll be ready to rejoin the world. :) in small doses!
Soooo you're pretty much due immediately and I'm thinking about you constantly. I can't wait to hear how it goes and how the new one is!!
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Not that I know - but disinterest in other things probably goes with that concept of "a baby changes everything."
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YES, I think that's true. It's not that the baby changes everything and you're left longing for the old days, it's that alla sudden you don't care about things you used to.
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