it will get better honey after my dad died my mom turned into a 6 year old - i was REALLY worried about her - it was so odd because my father had been so ill for so very long and she was on top of things and in control during all that time but once he died, she'd call me for the silliest things and i really had concerns about her
it's been 6 years now and she's coming back to normal - (sorta) i still worry that she isolates herself but she's beginning to get involved in social things and getting out of the house.
i can't imagine being married to someone for as long as our parents were and then to lose a spouse - i just can't imagine.
perhaps you can get mom to go to a grief support group? it helped my mom when she moved to arizona and met other women her age who were widowed - they have something in common and that is a comfort to her
Thanks m'dear. I'm thankful that Mum has a strong group of friends supporting her at home, many who she's met since Dad died. She did go to counselling a couple of times but didn't like the counsellor and there aren't many to choose from in a small town. However she has started going back to church and seems to have a good rapport with the minister so that's something. But none of them can take away her deep ddep fear of being alone. At 82 it's a tough thing to have to face for the first time in your life!
i commend you for your courage and commitment in attending to this relationship and archetype. i cannot fathom the need and necessity. i wish i could whisk you away on a vacation to recuperate. i am tending to my own mother and can only see what is in store. sending you wellness and health and rest in return. bless you.
OH thank you Lynn. Time away would be wonderful, (and I swear one day I'm gonna join you at your mountain retreat if you'd let me!) but right now I'm looking forward to getting back to my own rhythm here. It'll have to be a quick decompression though, what with upcoming workshops to teach and two major shows in the next month and not much work finished on anything yet. I trust that my Muse will be ready and waiting come next Thursday!
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after my dad died my mom turned into a 6 year old - i was REALLY worried about her - it was so odd because my father had been so ill for so very long and she was on top of things and in control during all that time but once he died, she'd call me for the silliest things and i really had concerns about her
it's been 6 years now and she's coming back to normal - (sorta) i still worry that she isolates herself but she's beginning to get involved in social things and getting out of the house.
i can't imagine being married to someone for as long as our parents were and then to lose a spouse - i just can't imagine.
perhaps you can get mom to go to a grief support group? it helped my mom when she moved to arizona and met other women her age who were widowed - they have something in common and that is a comfort to her
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But none of them can take away her deep ddep fear of being alone. At 82 it's a tough thing to have to face for the first time in your life!
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You are a saint for doing this twice in one year.
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And do you think it'll only be twice in one year? Christmas is just around the corner...again.
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