Unspoken Thoughts

[shadowwolf13]

There's two things I don't talk about here, one I still can't talk about and one that I need to

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[moonstone_fae]

Sharing the love is big for my family too. I use every chance I get to say how I feel.

[shadowwolf13]

It's very important that he always knows. :)

[elionwyr]

And you are loved.

[shadowwolf13]

<3 I am a 'very' lucky girl.

[glowy_lovers]

Being in an age gap relationship myself and being the older one, also having been a nurse and seen many things too sad to talk about. I would say yes the odds are stacked in the older partner dying first BUT the odds of getting a terminal illness in this day and age are stacked pretty high too. One can never *know* thankfully who will be the first to go. In fact the other day my mother told me about a guy who at 40 married a woman 20 years his senior she bumped into the woman the other day and the guy had died of terminal cancer in his 50's so none of us *really know* what the future holds.

[shadowwolf13]

It is all up in the air. Heck, had things gone just a little differently in the car crash, one or both of us wouldn't be here today. It was that close.

[pixiebelle]

I combat my fears by making sure people I love know it too. My greatest fear in life is losing someone I love. I know one day I'll lose my mom... And that idea kills me. I'm dating someone 9 years older and he's not much younger than my dad was when he died suddenly. It terrifies me to think about that...

It's something I think of often too. It's scary....

[shadowwolf13]

Losing my great grandmother was the hardest thing I'd ever done .. but I'd moved out and gotten some distance by then. The thought of losing somebody that I live with and spend nearly every day with terrifies me.

[sorchawench]

I deal with similar fears with Wes from time to time. Not because of an age difference, but because of his severe Bi-Polar disorder. I know that the odds are better than good that at some point, it will take control of him during a weak moment and he may well take his own life.

I lost a friend several years ago when I made mention in my LJ that I had looked after our life insurance policies and had made a foray into funeral pre-planning.

Despite knowing that any moment might be THAT moment, I still love him with all that I am and do everything in my power to make sure he knows it.

[shadowwolf13]

That's a very scary thought. I'm glad that my issues are mostly behind me and I'm not in that frame of mind anymore. We all have Lynn to thank for that though.

You lost a friend because you were planning for the future? o.O

You can't do anything other than love him with all you have. Anything less seems like a cheat.