“A” is for scarlet letter

[shabenanizer]

My big sister finally confirmed to me what I had long suspected, that her husband is an alcoholic.  And the guy owns a winery.  I spent last week screaming at the invisible BIL in my apartment, “You are supposed to take care of my sister.  You’re supposed to protect her and support her.  You’re supposed to respect her decision to not talk to our

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[annielately]

That's awful. I don't even know him and I hate him now. I'm so sorry that your sister, her kids, and now you have to deal with this. Al-Anon is a great idea. I hope you are successful in encouraging Bree to stand up for herself, whether that means leaving him or whatever. Good luck.

[shabenanizer]

Thanks Annie. I'm going to support my sister and her kids in any way I can without telling her what to do because 1) I can't be another person in her life telling her what to do, that will be taking power away from her, and 2) she already has friends telling her to leave her husband. I'm going to do what all my aunts and uncles failed to do for me growing up, have a relationship with her and her kids and not cut out because it makes me uncomfortable or it's an inconvenience.