Respect and expectations

[sexycelticlady]

From a personal perspective, respect plays a significant part of the lifestyle. I could not submit to anyone I did not respect, and likewise I would expect any Dom I play with to respect me in turn. Like any interaction between adults there needs to be a reciprocation of respect, care, communication, trust and honesty. Without these things I do not

Comments

[skitabug]

In my sometimes humble opinion, that's the BEST part of this type of relationship; the amount of trust and communication required. Of course the play is fun and so on, but the relationships seem deeper, more intense, and often healthier. This could be a coincidence based on my age/experience when I discovered the lifestyle, but I don't really think so.

[sexycelticlady]

Yes. I think that because everyone is aware of it as a requirement that it is a stronger basis from which to form a relationship, thus making the relationships more intense. I do think that it is equally important in vanilla relationships but is simply often overlooked or not addressed.

[skitabug]

Well, it's easier to overlook/not adress it if your very safety isn't in the hands of others. One thing that I find amusing when I step back and look at things is how much HEALTHIER bdsm relationships really are on the whole.

[sexycelticlady]

Very true and yes, I would agree with you. Maybe it is that we have a regular release in the form of play. I am not saying that we take our agression out, because that is not the case, but the play is a form of release, at least, it is for me, taking me out of myself for a while.